The auction is underway, but other work continues.

I mentioned a few days ago that my parents’ estate auction had started, which sort of ends one chore with which I have been contending for a long time. It is a relief, but also increases stress with worrying about not receiving enough bids to offset costs, praying  for the best and leaving it in God’s hands. I know that by doing so He will make sure it generates what He knows is needed. That helps that part, but it is also somewhat disconcerting and creates some sadness since once the things are gone, some of the tangible things will no longer be here. Somewhat like losing a part of them. I give praise to the Lord for the time I had with them.

But, even though that chore is, for the most part, done there are other things that still need done: keeping the yard mowed, maintaining and repairing the house, making sure all associated expenses are kept paid, and several other things. Today, I sit in the house taking a break from yard work at their house and reflect. Happy moments, sad moments and many other experiences over the years shared with them and others. I know, that regardless of if or when I sell the house, the fact that the other things being sold in the auction will be gone soon, there is nothing that can remove those memories. I thank God for all the blessings He gave me during that time. I mourn the losses, but realize all was somehow in His plan.

So, as I prepare to finish the mowing and try to decide what other things I will take care of at the house today and tomorrow I praise Him, thank Him and look forward to whatever comes next.

 

24 For we are saved by hope: but hope that is seen is not hope: for what a man seeth, why doth he yet hope for?
25 But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it.
26 Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered.
27 And he that searcheth the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the Spirit, because he maketh intercession for the saints according to the will of God.
28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Romans 8:24-28

 

32 (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.
33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

Matthew 6:32-33

Lord,

I praise You and thank You for the comfort of knowing that YOU know my needs and my concerns and that You will be sure that I have all I need. I thank You for helping me learn how to seek Christ and the hunger to know and understand the heart and mind of Jesus. I pray in the name of Jesus that You keep that fire burning and help make me the vessel that You wish for me to be for Christ’s glory. Please, teach me to think more like Jesus and to see others through His eyes.

Amen

thanks for the visit, Please, have a blessed day and try to be a blessing to others.

 

 

Self Esteem

 

 

 

I used to have very low self esteem. Many reasons one develops that feeling about one’s self and that is how it was for me. My mom was always good to me, but she also always made time to help others, family, say one of her sisters was having issues with her kids, she would be quick to run over and help her with whatever, often having cousins staying with us for extended time periods which caused me to have to cancel plans so we could go to the aunt’s house and deal with whatever issues occurred there. Sometimes a friend needed something and once again, plans canceled to go help someone else. Later, they started foster parenting so all kinds of disruptions there, and the amount of time the foster children took was phenomenal. Those things resulted in my feeling that I must not have been too important, otherwise she wouldn’t make me cancel plans for the other people and that my brother and I were a not enough and that, since the other kids took so much time and she had less for me, that added to those feelings. I was a kid and kids think only of themselves. I know it did not make her love me less, but still, a person only has so much time and when she took time from me to deal with the foster children and other people there was less time for me.

When I was older, dating, sort of engaged choices were made by others that added to the low self esteem, making me feel like I was fortunate if anyone took time for me at all. Finding that they preferred to spend time with others, whether it be friends, family or whoever than with me. I tried compensating with working hard, distracting myself hunting or fishing, getting an education and good career. But, for a long time that did not help my self esteem. Over time, it got better, but regardless of all that, deep inside, I did not feel good about myself. Then, when my father was dying and my wife decided it was more important to take a vacation trip rather than cancel it so she could stay there with my father, me and my family at a difficult time it truly destroyed any sense of self worth that I had at all. How could I have value if my own wife would go on vacation while I was suffering and my father was dying. I pretended things were sort of okay and made it through but was not able to find value in myself. I worked helping my mom around her house, worked a lot on projects at home, found other distractions but, no matter what, my self esteem was not better and I really could not see a future. When I got to the point that I had good self esteem and felt that there was a bright future on the horizon, once again, I received a blow that shattered that and one again, my sense of self worth was gone.

As I said, after a series of events, I was at my lowest point ever and that is when I came back to Christ. HE made me better, He forgave my sins, He showed me that others actions do not make me worth more or less. HE showed me my value. It isn’t based on actions of others. Others’ actions are their decisions, sometimes made out of concern for others, but more often than not out of selfishness, to try to fill voids they have due to self esteem issues. He showed me that thinking that when others treated me badly was actually because of problems they had with themselves and are usually self motivated. Failure of others to treat me as I treat them is not my failure and doesn’t make me of less importance. Humans are by nature selfish and no matter how much they swear their love and dedication, eventually they will make decisions based purely on what they think best serves them and will either make demands of you to do things, or turn their backs on you if you cannot do what they want, when they want. Despite saying they value you, you end up seeing that they value themselves more and when it is someone you thought really loved you it can further damage one’s self esteem. Until you remember, human nature and that some people will not, or cannot, get past their own human element.

Now, my value is from Christ. He is my savior, my salvation, my redeemer. He makes me valuable beyond anything I could have ever imagined. He is always there, never leaves me or forsakes me. He cares about me, my needs, desires, hurts and what is important for me. He doesn’t base my value on what I can buy for Him, what I can do for Him. Oh, God expects our praise, worship and service but it doesn’t mean He doesn’t value us. He valued me enough to sacrifice His son, that is a lot more than others have done for me.

 

“For our gospel came not unto you in word only, but also in power, and in the Holy Ghost, and in much assurance; as ye know what manner of men we were among you for your sake.”
1 Thessalonians 1:5 (KJV)

 

He was here for MY SAKE! To help me know that my value to Him is so great he lowered himself and became human so He could die for my sins.

Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not. 1 John 3:1

 

And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. Luke 16:15

 

The last verse says the most to me, that no matter what PEOPLE do to me, to try to undermine my self esteem, whether it be intentional or not, GOD will see me for who I am, He will see my heart, He know me and my value of whether or not the other people do. He also tells me that when one is esteemed by people, they are an abomination to God. Those who only worry about what others think, and do anything to try to make them think highly of them, usually in an attempt to boost their own self esteem, will destroy the value God puts on them. Plus, it will only serve to further lower their own self esteem when they realize that the esteem in which others hold them is fleeting.

 

Lord, I worship You and thank You for being my Redeemer, that You brought me out of that circumstance to show me that I had tremendous value and that You always knew that and You were always there for me. All I needed to do was call out to You. Thank You for all the blessings, for the knowledge You are giving me, for helping my faith strengthen and my relationship with Christ grow tremendously. I ask in Jesus Name that You continue Your work in me to make me know how to better seek You, further strengthen my faith, show me Your will in my life. I ask that You also work in the lives of others to draw them to You and teach them Your will in their lives as well.

Amen

 

Thanks for the visit, I hope others who may have self esteem issues realize that material possessions, money, status, other people do not dictate our worth, one’s only true worth comes from Christ and our relationship with Him.