28 Then said Jesus unto them, When ye have lifted up the Son of man, then shall ye know that I am he, and that I do nothing of myself; but as my Father hath taught me, I speak these things.
29 And he that sent me is with me: the Father hath not left me alone; for I do always those things that please him.
I had planned to post today about a letter that someone put in the mailbox sometime over the last week or so at my parents house that admitted to doing things to make people look bad. I decided not to make that post, maybe later, but to discuss various situations in which I have been accused and how Christ would respond, how I should have responded. I want to be more Christ like and am trying to learn from the scripture so I can behave as He would have me do and not how the flesh wishes. So, I will talk about my response (or the proper response) to the attitude behind the letter I received.
Sometimes, I have to deal with people that are making false statements about me and creating hard feelings and hatred in others towards me. There are some that I know why they do it, sometimes patients get angry if they don’t get the pain medications they want so they are going to do whatever they can to “get even” for my not giving them the narcotics they wanted. Other times, someone else did something, but for whatever reason I get blamed. But many times, I don’t really know why people feel the need to lie and try to create hostility towards other people, but it seems that they apparently only feel good about themselves if they create problems for others. Seeming to take great pleasure in causing people to hate someone. I will start to feel frustrated, maybe a little down on myself when I have to deal with the lies and hatred, then I realize Christ was lied about and hated too. That being said, I guess being persecuted in that way puts me in the very best of company. It is frustrating being lied about, persecuted and hated by some when I was not in the wrong in those instances I have to believe as a human, I am never 100% blameless. Yet, Christ was blameless, without any sin whatsoever and He was lied about, persecuted, hated and crucified.
For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him. 2 Corinthians 5:21
And ye know that he was manifested to take away our sins; and in him is no sin. 1 John 3:5
In the past, when I was being persecuted unfairly and lied about I would protest, sometimes loudly and I would get angry at the person causing the issue and sometimes make negative comments about the person lying about me. But, since I came back to Christ, I simply state what did or did not happen and nothing more. I don’t get angry at those making the false statements. Instead, I feel bad for them and forgive them. I also realize that they most likely have some significant issues that causes them to behave as they do and pray that God help them with their issues. Sometimes, the person’s false accusations and lies have created hostility in others towards me and that I cannot control, for some reason, people that know me far better have allowed themselves to believe things that have been said about me and believe that I have done things I did not do and now have a lot of hostility toward me. All I can control is my reaction to that behavior of others. I have at times failed and acted out, the other day I confronted one who has repeatedly tried to antagonize me and asked once again, but not in a hostile manner, that the antagonism stop. But, they responded by trying to antagonize me further at that time, calling names and behaving in a manner of which Christ would not approve. I initially responded, but before I let things go too far I caught myself, held my tongue from further comments and rather than allow things to escalate further, I walked away. I was not wrong to ask them to stop, but it was in a public place and that is not how I should have done it. Yet, I should have just walked away to begin with and not even succumbed to the temptation to say anything. I should have turned the other cheek.
Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. Matthew 18:15
3 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.
4 And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him. Luke 17:3-4
Unfortunately, most that are doing one wrong do not have the desire to correct their behavior. So, taking time to try to address the wrong serves very little purpose.
But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also. Matthew 5:39
At work, when there are allegations or complaints made, I am required to respond, as I stated, I simply draft a statement with the facts and leave it at that. No inflammatory comments, no harsh wording, a simple statement and no more. But, when Christ was accused, He said nothing. The discipline to hold one’s tongue in a situation like that had to have been tremendous.
12 And when he was accused of the chief priests and elders, he answered nothing.
13 Then said Pilate unto him, Hearest thou not how many things they witness against thee?
14 And he answered him to never a word; insomuch that the governor marvelled greatly.
In all the cases, rather than argue, become hostile, angry and lash out verbally as I would have in the past, I make what statements I need and trust in the Lord. I know that eventually, the truth will come out and hopefully, the damage done by others will not be permanent.
Sometimes, okay, very often, what He would have us do is so much different than the flesh wants to do in those situations. Knowing that not answering has consequences and gives the appearance that one has no defense is difficult for my human self to not simply defend myself against the attacks but to attack back which is not what He wants from us. Unfortunately, there is no evidence of innocence so I can’t prove anything by trying to defend myself. But, protesting too loudly, trying too hard to defend oneself makes one seem guilty, because if one were innocent, they would not need to defend oneself. It’s one of those between a rock and a hard place situations. Most, if not all, of the time there is no evidence of guilt either, but that has not stopped people from judging. That is what makes it tempting to feel the need to try to defend oneself but that is a temptation He showed not to do so. I want to be more like Him, so I try, and need to try harder, to resist that temptation.
As far as being hated, well, as I said, they hated Christ way before anyone hated me, so I am in the BEST of company.
18 If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you.
19 If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.
20 Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you; if they have kept my saying, they will keep yours also.
The most aggressive and hostile attacks have come after my salvation, not physically aggressive, but verbally or in writing. Attacks against me, accusations that question my intent and character, twisting my words to try to use against me, saying I said or did things I did not say or do. My human self would prefer to simply have an open exchange with the accusers but, that is not what Christ wants. In order for me to improve my walk with Him, I must follow His examples and as hard as it is, not try to prove my innocence or fight back, but turn the other cheek. It aint easy for the flesh, but He is making me better able to do that. Praise God for His help.
I forgive those who have done me wrong and pray that they may recognize their sins and seek God in those matters. For those I have done wrong, I ask forgiveness.
Lord, I worship You and praise You for all You are and do. I pray in Jesus Name and ask that You help me hold my tongue, resist the temptation to respond to false allegations, to resist my fleshly desire to respond when I have been done wrong. Help me Remember how Christ would want me to respond and not let my human emotions interfere with being a witness for You. I have repeatedly forgiven those who have sinned against me over and over. But, I have also tried to rebuke those who have done so and I wish to not even do that in the future. Help me only answer to the extent required and no more than that. I ask You show the truth to those who have been told the lies and whose judgement is not accurate. I give to You and desire to be justified in the sight of people. I pray You help me be more like Christ and less like me. Please draw us all closer to You so we can all better serve You. I ask that You work in my life, in my heart and make me a better servant for You. I ask for forgiveness for my sins, forgiveness for not turning the other cheek. I pray You help me remember Your will and way in my life. Show my Your plan for my life that I may better serve You.
I do appreciate those who take the time to stop by my blog and give me a little time. We all face times like these in our lives to one extent or another. I hope something here helps others.
Please, try to be a blessing to one other today.