Soft answers aren’t always easy!

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Yesterday I was at work and walked into see a patient and he immediately started hollering, swearing and was very loud. Now, I had NO CLUE why he was angry at me as I hadn’t had time to do anything for or to him, whether it was good or bad. I felt like telling him off, that he was out of line for swearing and hollering at me, and having him removed from the clinic. But, God has helped that part of me so that I was able to step back and calmly introduce myself and tell him I did not know what was going on but I was there to try to help him if he could explain why he had come to the urgent care. He continued with his prior behavior, but not quite so loud. Rather than do as the soldier in me wanted and tell him to shut up a minute, I let him continue. AND…it persisted, one nurse overheard him and I knew that I would be doing one of two things: walk out the door or respond to him with a harsh tone. I also knew that how I left would make a difference. Well, the nurse came and asked if there was an issue. I explained that the patient was upset and I did not have a chance to find out why, but it was obvious he needed a few minutes so I was going to step out so could speak to him and I would be back shortly to try to help him. The nurse spoke with the patient a couple minutes and had pretty much the same type interaction as I had had but also said that “the doctor will be in to see you in just a couple minutes to try to help you.”

I gave him another minute or two and then went back into the exam room. The interaction started the same, I let him vent for a moment or two and when he finally stopped talking I said, “I understand you are having quite a bit of pain and sometimes that becomes frustrating. I want to help you and will do what I can to make the pain better. It would help me if you would explain about your pain, where it is, how it started and if anything makes it better or worse.But when you yell and swear it makes it harder for us to find out what is wrong and see how I can help.” He paused a moment and then spoke again, a little less harsh. As the encounter continued he calmed further, was easier with whom to communicate and after some treatment he had less pain and the interaction improved further.

After it was all done, he felt better and while never what I would call extra nice, he was civil and explained that one nurse had apparently been rude to him and that is what “pushed him over the edge.” I apologized for the problem he had with her, finished taking care of him and he was released. Just before he left, he thanked me and apologized for his words and behavior. I could have lectured him, but simply stated I was glad I could help him and that I understood as I have had bad pain before and it can cause one to behave in ways that are not normal for them.

A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.  Proverbs 15:1

Now, this time, the interaction went pretty well however there have been times when I would have been more likely to say, “Okay, I know you are in pain, but it does not excuse such behavior or language and if you can’t stop we will have to ask you to leave.” While true, as I believe people have a responsibility to not behave as he was acting but I also realize that demanding he behave a certain way that was more appropriate would have escalated things rather than improving his behavior.

I must admit that in the past, not only would I have possibly “copped an attitude” and responded harshly to his behavior, I more likely than not would have done so. Oh, I could say it was because in my position I deserve to be treated respectfully or that because of other issues I did not respond well to such interactions. None of that matters as far as why I used to be likely to respond one way instead of the way God would have me respond but my attitude was different. I didn’t start arguments but I sure looked for excuses to take offense. I was bitter and angry all the time. The change in my behavior and attitude is not thanks to me, but to the impact that Christ has had on me. HE has changed me and my attitude, my behavior.

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. 2 Corinthians 5:17

Yes, thanks to CHRIST I am a new creature. My attitude and behavior has changed. My heart is softer towards others and towards myself as well. What an amazing God we serve that can make such changes. He delivered me from sin and from myself. He replaced the anger and sadness with joy, the hate with love.

26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
27 Neither give place to the devil.
28 Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth.
29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

Ephesians 4:26-29

Those who know me: family, friend, coworkers and acquaintances have all seen the difference and some have commented about it to me, others I have overheard say things. Such is the power of Jesus on ones life.

Lord, I praise You and give Christ the glory for the changes in my life, for the ability I am learning to use soft answers when others are harsh. You have made my life better in so many ways. I pray in the name of Jesus that You continue Your work in me and help me continue to improve as I know while I am better than I was, I am not yet the person You want me to be for You. Help me to put self aside and show You in me as I go about my days. Help me be Your light in a dark world. I ask that You draw me and my loved ones to You help us know You better, to know Your will and way for us and help us take the steps that You would have us take.

Amen

 

I hope everyone has a great day and are blessed as you go about your business. Try to be a blessing to someone. As always, I appreciate your time to visit and read my ramblings.

 

 

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The after Christmas returns.

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Christmas is over and all the retailers are preparing for the rush of people returning gifts they received. Maybe the gifts were the wrong size or color; perhaps someone received gifts from different people that are the same or they started using the gift and found out that it was defective somehow; maybe the recipient just did not like the gift, there are many reasons a person may want to return something to the store to exchange it. The good thing about this time of year is that most retailers are more willing to accept exchanges with less fuss, without the receipts and work with people to make the process less of a hassle.

God lets us exchange without hesitation, but not only after Christmas. He allows us to exchange anytime. We can exchange our anger and sorrow for joy, our hate for love, our confusion for clarity and understanding. As it says in the song I have been hearing on the radio and He  “take all that is wrong and make it right.” All we need to do is listen to Him and let Him have His will in our lives. Just follow where we know He is leading us.

If thou return to the Almighty, thou shalt be built up, thou shalt put away iniquity far from thy tabernacles.  Job 22:23

Let us search and try our ways, and turn again to the LORD.  Lamentations 3:40

Yeah, the Lord takes returns and He does so gladly. He takes us with all our faults and sins, no matter how we have used and abused our souls. He takes the damaged and defective creatures and makes us new and perfect, that is a better exchange program than any store.

For ye were as sheep going astray; but are now returned unto the Shepherd and Bishop of your souls.  1 Peter 2:25

Just as in the parable of the prodigal son, the son is not only allowed to return but is welcomed back by his father with rejoicing, open arms and without judgement or criticism, without saying “I told you so.” That is how God does when we return to the life He wants for us and turn away from sin. He accepts us; He’s glad that we are back; and He doesn’t try to tell us He told us so. He rejoices that we did return. That’s how I aspire to be, I hope I prove myself worthy.

And he arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and fell on his neck, and kissed him.  Luke 15:20

 

22 But the father said to his servants, Bring forth the best robe, and put it on him; and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet:
23 And bring hither the fatted calf, and kill it; and let us eat, and be merry:
24 For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found. And they began to be merry.

Luke 15:22-24

It was meet that we should make merry, and be glad: for this thy brother was dead, and is alive again; and was lost, and is found.  Luke 15:32

Yes, I hope to be as the father here, as God our Father, and rejoice when a lost one returns. No other thoughts than how important it is to rejoice.

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.  1 John 1:9

And they shall teach no more every man his neighbour, and every man his brother, saying, Know the LORD: for they shall all know me, from the least of them unto the greatest of them, saith the LORD: for I will forgive their iniquity, and I will remember their sin no more. Jeremiah 31:34

 

Lord, I praise You for welcoming me back when I had strayed from You. Thank You for accepting me and not dwelling on my mistakes. Thank You for the mercy and grace You showed. I pray in the name of Jesus that I learn from You and from Christ’s words about the prodigal son whose return was met with only rejoicing and no other thoughts or concerns. That when I see other’s return to You, and Your will for them, that I not say or think about anything but rejoicing on their return. That all I think, say or do, be a reflection of the joy You feel and the way You respond when one returns to You. I ask that You draw us all to You so we may all know the perfect love and forgiveness You give and that we all know that it was paid for through the sacrifice of Your son, Jesus, when He died on the cross.

Amen

 

I hope all are enjoying the last of this current year and are blessed throughout the rest of this year and all of next year. Remember to try to be a blessing to someone as you go through your days.

 

 

Never happy, always angry.

Have you ever had to deal with someone that for no good reason is just never happy. Oh, they pretend to be happy but if you look it’s a facade and you can tell there is no true joy. Even worse than that, they are obviously angry and it’s easy to see since they are continuously not only quick to complain about almost everyone and everything if not absolutely everyone and everything. But not only are they trying to find any excuse to complain about things they almost immediately go from complaining about others but they attack them. Spreading half truths, outright lies and saying vile things about them. And, when they are doing all that, creating chaos and drama that they seem to thrive. Only being happy themselves when they are hurting others and causing them to be unhappy. Doing all they can to try to harass others and spread misery.

11 Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.
12 There is one lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy: who art thou that judgest another?

James 4:11-12

When one reviews the psychiatry and psychology literature it becomes obvious that those who behave that way are actually trying to project the feelings they have about themselves onto others. They feel badly about themselves and want to make others feel badly too, so that they feel “normal” because they think “if everyone else is miserable like me, I am mostly normal, and if I was the cause of the misery, then I have some power in life over others.” The individuals are filled with self hate, self loathing, low self esteem and the only way they can feel a sense of self worth is through trying to hurt others and make them feel badly. It is truly sad that one has that mindset, but there are a lot of people out there that are exactly that way. Finding joy in others sorrow and feeling sad if they realize others have any joy. They feel no remorse when they mistreat others, instead feeling or at least acting like, it is their personal right to do such.

How does one help someone like that? Can they be helped? Sadly, most are narcissistic to one extent or another and they justify their actions as their right that supersedes the rights of others. The literally have no regard for others but can do a great job pretending to be concerned and can at times be quite charming when they feel they have something to gain from someone and they believe that behavior will help them so at times, will say nice things to make another feel good about themselves, but that is usually short lived and once they decide another person is not beneficial to them, they will attack, and attack ruthlessly. Which takes us back to the way that some will complain and attack others. But, the bottom line for those people is that they hate themselves, try to use others to validate themselves and in other ways use people to try to help their own self esteem.

12 But what I do, that I will do, that I may cut off occasion from them which desire occasion; that wherein they glory, they may be found even as we.

13 For such are false apostles, deceitful workers, transforming themselves into the apostles of Christ.

14 And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light.

15 Therefore it is no great thing if his ministers also be transformed as the ministers of righteousness; whose end shall be according to their works.

2 Corinthians 11:12-15

If having some sort of “crisis” where they express doubts and concerns to people, ask for help, ask what is wrong, etc, and the person tries to help them by telling them what they have observed, then they attack that person as well.

He that refuseth instruction despiseth his own soul: but he that heareth reproof getteth understanding.  Proverbs 15:32

Sadly, these people can be subtle how they do things, sometimes, not so subtle, but when that pattern of behavior is observed, be cautious and realize that you can pray for them, but that they often will deny they are wrong so feel they have no reason to talk to God about anything. But, one continues to pray with the hope that God works in that person’s life.

Lord, I praise Your name and worship you for Your majesty. Thank You for the blessings and life lessons that helps me to improve my walk with You and makes my life better. I pray in the name of Jesus that You continue to help me see and understand others better and how to deal with those that behave in negative manner so I can avoid getting trapped in difficult circumstances or caught up in the drama that some try to create. I ask that You reach those who are that way and show them Your truth and work in their hearts that the do right by You and others. I pray that You draw my loved ones to You and show them how to receive the forgiveness and mercy that You offer.

Amen.

I appreciate those who take the time to visit my blog and read my posts. I hope all are having a blessed Christmas season and are able to be a blessing to others as well.

Change

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As I was looking back over the last year, thinking about how many changes have happened in my life I also wondered how many more were coming. Some of the changes have, or will be, painful and very unexpected. Other changes were just changes, not really good or bad, just different. And, others yet have been, or will be exciting and great for me. Out of all, my salvation has been the most wonderful of all. I was in some ways just before that time in a great place personally and other ways a very bad place. Things went to completely bad and that is when I hit the point that I could no longer do things on my own and finally accepted the fact (although I knew it all along) that I NEEDED Christ. Since that time, WHAT A DIFFERENCE He has made in me. Oh, I still have areas in my Christian walk that need work; that is true for all Christians. I still at times have anger at others for things, I still have difficulty with forgiving, I sometimes slip and get angry and let that impact my actions or words. I don’t go into a rage like some do and start screaming and cussing and throwing things, but I do get angry. Those times are not often but they happen. I am kinder and more considerate about others. I always was kind and considerate, but within limits. I was also bitter and cold a lot. It was very hard for me to be truly compassionate. A lot of factors caused that for me. There were issues carried from Iraq, issues from marriage, from things at work, from family situations, other situations that contributed to me being that way. But, since my salvation (or re-salvation in a way) I still am dealing with those issues. Problems don’t disappear when one is saved, but with Christ by my side, my attitude about them is different. I react differently, mostly, as I said I do still have moments that my walk is not perfect, but even the less perfect moments are still much better than anything previously.

What a great and mighty God we serve. Yes, I am a new creature in Him. The old me is passed away. I thank Jesus and praise His Holy Name for the work He has done and is doing in me. I anxiously anticipate further improvement, getting to the time that any slips will be almost nonexistent.

 

Lord, I praise You and thank You for the kindness, grace and mercy and forgiveness You gave me and for my salvation that was paid for by the death of Christ on the cross. He accepted all my sins and suffered for them. I thank You for making me a new creature. I pray in Jesus’ Name that You continue to help me further improve and evolve into what You truly want me to be and that I better learn and feel with the heart of Christ. I ask that You work in the lives of loved ones as well. Show them Your perfect forgiveness and mercy that they may walk with You. Teach us all the right paths for us so we can glorify You.

Amen

 

Thanks for taking time to read my ramblings. I hope the thought of being a new creature is a blessing to someone. Please, do all you can to be a blessing to others today.

 

Independence Day!!!!!

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I used to love the 4th of July, especially as a child, the firecrackers, sparklers and especially the huge boom and explosions, of sound and the flash of the lights, from the big fireworks display in town. Well, that part has changed, Iraq took some of that from me, the explosions and the smell of the burning powder in the fireworks are potent reminders of a less than wonderful time in my life. But, that is not the Independence Day of which I wish to write. Oh, I am patriotic, I have over 20 years in the military so, yeah, I am very patriotic and have done a lot for this country and all the citizens, but as I said, I have a different kind of Independence I wish to discuss today.

Today, as the country celebrates Independence Day, I plan to celebrate too. BUT, I will be celebrating my independence from sin, hate, bitterness, anger, and all the other negative aspects of the world. I plan to celebrate the independence, redemption and salvation that Christ gave me when He was crucified and then rose 3 days later. THAT is the independence we all should be celebrating. Freedom from the things that bind us to the world, all the negative emotions and actions that separate us from God. I am free from Satan’s grip on my life.

Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage. Galations 5:1

 

Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord [is], there [is] liberty. 2 Corinthians 3:17

 

I am also free of those filled with hate, those who would use me, mistreat me, lie to me, judge me unfairly, criticize, gossip or in any other way treat me or act towards me in any way that is not Christ like. Those of this world that are so filled with self hate, hate of the world, hate of anyone and everyone they cannot control or use, those who would drag others down in order to feel good about themselves or in any other way choose to do wrong to others and in so doing, allow Satan to come into their lives. As for those who would try to drag me down, who slander me and mistreat me, I forgive them, I love them with the love of Christ and I pray for them, that they may too be free of the hate that they carry for themselves and for others. I have my freedom, my independence of the burdens of carrying around anger and hurt due to the acts of others, free of the concern about the wrongly placed hatred due to lies of others. I am free of those burdens because Christ gives me forgiveness and I give forgiveness to others.  I am free because He freed me. He made me a partaker of Himself, I must only hold onto my faith and be steadfast and dedicated to Him.

For we are made partakers of Christ, if we hold the beginning of our confidence stedfast unto the end Hebrews 3:14

 

14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Matthew 6:14-15

 

12 Whereupon as I went to Damascus with authority and commission from the chief priests,
13 At midday, O king, I saw in the way a light from heaven, above the brightness of the sun, shining round about me and them which journeyed with me.
14 And when we were all fallen to the earth, I heard a voice speaking unto me, and saying in the Hebrew tongue, Saul, Saul, why persecutest thou me? it is hard for thee to kick against the pricks.
15 And I said, Who art thou, Lord? And he said, I am Jesus whom thou persecutest.
16 But rise, and stand upon thy feet: for I have appeared unto thee for this purpose, to make thee a minister and a witness both of these things which thou hast seen, and of those things in the which I will appear unto thee;
17 Delivering thee from the people, and from the Gentiles, unto whom now I send thee,
18 To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light, and from the power of Satan unto God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins, and inheritance among them which are sanctified by faith that is in me.

Acts 26:12-18

 

Lord, I thank You for my independence from sin, from the burden of all the negative emotions brought on by my sins and those of others against me and from the burden of carrying around the anger caused by them, from the frustrations of trying to make my own path, from worry about my future. All those things have been given to Christ, He has paid for my freedom, my independence, my salvation. I praise You Lord for all You are and all You do. I pray in Jesus name that You continue to Your work in me, help me learn to seek Christ, help me better serve Him and help others have the independence You have given me. I ask that You draw all my loved one to You and give them the desire to have the same freedom from sin. Help me be a better example of You and the difference You make.

Amen.

 

I hope all have a blessed and safe 4th of July. I also hope that you are able be a blessing to at least one other person today.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I am in the best of company when I am lied about and hated.

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28 Then said Jesus unto them, When ye have lifted up the Son of man, then shall ye know that I am he, and that I do nothing of myself; but as my Father hath taught me, I speak these things.
29 And he that sent me is with me: the Father hath not left me alone; for I do always those things that please him.

John 8:28-29

I had planned to post today about a letter that someone put in the mailbox sometime over the last week or so at my parents house that admitted to doing things to make people look bad. I decided not to make that post, maybe later, but to discuss various situations in which I have been accused and how Christ would respond, how I should have responded. I want to be more Christ like and am trying to learn from the scripture so I can behave as He would have me do and not how the flesh wishes. So, I will talk about my response (or the proper response) to the attitude behind the letter I received.

Sometimes, I have to deal with people that are making false statements about me and creating hard feelings and hatred in others towards me. There are some that I know why they do it, sometimes patients get angry if they don’t get the pain medications they want so they are going to do whatever they can to “get even” for my not giving them the narcotics they wanted. Other times, someone else did something, but for whatever reason I get blamed. But many times, I don’t really know why people feel the need to lie and try to create hostility towards other people, but it seems that they apparently only feel good about themselves if they create problems for others. Seeming to take great pleasure in causing people to hate someone. I will start to feel frustrated, maybe a little down on myself when I have to deal with the lies and hatred, then I realize Christ was lied about and hated too. That being said, I guess being persecuted in that way puts me in the very best of company. It is frustrating being lied about, persecuted and hated by some when I was not in the wrong in those instances I have to believe as a human, I am never 100% blameless. Yet, Christ was blameless,  without any sin whatsoever and He was lied about, persecuted, hated and crucified.

For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him. 2 Corinthians 5:21

 

And ye know that he was manifested to take away our sins; and in him is no sin. 1 John 3:5

 

In the past, when I was being persecuted unfairly and lied about I would protest, sometimes loudly and I would get angry at the person causing the issue and sometimes make negative comments about the person lying about me. But, since I came back to Christ, I simply state what did or did not happen and nothing more. I don’t get angry at those making the false statements. Instead, I feel bad for them and forgive them. I also realize that they most likely have some significant issues that causes them to behave as they do and pray that God help them with their issues. Sometimes, the person’s false accusations and lies have created hostility in others towards me and that I cannot control, for some reason, people that know me far better have allowed themselves to believe things that have been said about me and believe that I have done things I did not do and now have a lot of hostility toward me. All I can control is my reaction to that behavior of others. I have at times failed and acted out, the other day I confronted one who has repeatedly tried to antagonize me and asked once again, but not in a hostile manner, that the antagonism stop. But, they responded by trying to antagonize me further at that time, calling names and behaving in a manner of which Christ would not approve. I initially responded, but before I let things go too far I caught myself, held my tongue from further comments and rather than allow things to escalate further, I walked away. I was not wrong to ask them to stop, but it was in a public place and that is not how I should have done it. Yet, I should have just walked away to begin with and not even succumbed to the temptation to say anything. I should have turned the other cheek.

Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. Matthew 18:15

 

3 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.
4 And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him. Luke 17:3-4

Unfortunately, most that are doing one wrong do not have the desire to correct their behavior. So, taking time to try to address the wrong serves very little purpose.

But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also. Matthew 5:39

 

At work, when there are allegations or complaints made, I am required to respond, as I stated, I simply draft a statement with the facts and leave it at that. No inflammatory comments, no harsh wording, a simple statement and no more. But, when Christ was accused, He said nothing. The discipline to hold one’s tongue in a situation like that had to have been tremendous.

12 And when he was accused of the chief priests and elders, he answered nothing.
13 Then said Pilate unto him, Hearest thou not how many things they witness against thee?
14 And he answered him to never a word; insomuch that the governor marvelled greatly.

Matthew 27:12-14

In all the cases, rather than argue, become hostile, angry and lash out verbally as I would have in the past, I make what statements I need and trust in the Lord. I know that eventually, the truth will come out and hopefully, the damage done by others will not be permanent.

Sometimes, okay, very often, what He would have us do is so much different than the flesh wants to do in those situations. Knowing that not answering has consequences and gives the appearance that one has no defense is difficult for my human self to not simply defend myself against the attacks but to attack back which is not what He wants from us. Unfortunately, there is no evidence of innocence so I can’t prove anything by trying to defend myself. But, protesting too loudly, trying too hard to defend oneself makes one seem guilty, because if one were innocent, they would not need to defend oneself. It’s one of those between a rock and a hard place situations. Most, if not all, of the time there is no evidence of guilt either, but that has not stopped people from judging. That is what makes it tempting to feel the need to try to defend oneself but that is a temptation He showed not to do so. I want to be more like Him, so I try, and need to try harder, to resist that temptation.

As far as being hated, well, as I said, they hated Christ way before anyone hated me, so I am in the BEST of company.

18 If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you.
19 If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.
20 Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you; if they have kept my saying, they will keep yours also.

John 15:18-20

 

The most aggressive and hostile attacks have come after my salvation, not physically aggressive, but verbally or in writing. Attacks against me, accusations that question my intent and character, twisting my words to try to use against me, saying I said or did things I did not say or do. My human self would prefer to simply have an open exchange with the accusers but, that is not what Christ wants. In order for me to improve my walk with Him, I must follow His examples and as hard as it is, not try to prove my innocence or fight back, but turn the other cheek. It aint easy for the flesh, but He is making me better able to do that. Praise God for His help.

I forgive those who have done me wrong and pray that they may recognize their sins and seek God in those matters. For those I have done wrong, I ask forgiveness.

 

Lord, I worship You and praise You for all You are and do. I pray in Jesus Name and ask that You help me hold my tongue, resist the temptation to respond to false allegations, to resist my fleshly desire to respond when I have been done wrong. Help me Remember how Christ would want me to respond and not let my human emotions interfere with being a witness for You. I have repeatedly forgiven those who have sinned against me over and over. But, I have also tried to rebuke those who have done so and I wish to not even do that in the future. Help me only answer to the extent required and no more than that. I ask You show the truth to those who have been told the lies and whose judgement is not accurate. I give to You and desire to be justified in the sight of people. I pray You help me be more like Christ and less like me. Please draw us all closer to You so we can all better serve You. I ask that You work in my life, in my heart and make me a better servant for You. I ask for forgiveness for my sins, forgiveness for not turning the other cheek. I pray You help me remember Your will and way in my life. Show my Your plan for my life that I may better serve You.

Amen

 

I do appreciate those who take the time to stop by my blog and give me a little time. We all face times like these in our lives to one extent or another. I hope something here helps others.

Please, try to be a blessing to one other today.

UGGGH! What do THEY want this time?

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Does anyone else, or maybe everyone else, have at least one person that when you see a text, email or their number on your phone think, “WHAT DO THEY WANT THIS TIME?!?” Because, due to their history you already know there is going to be some kind of hateful message coming. Never anything kind or decent, they just ooze hate and contempt, for anyone and everyone. Never contacting anyone unless they find, or fabricate, some reason to have their anger directed at the one they decided to message. They just try to find any reason to be offended and get angry, at anyone. You wonder why they hate you and others so much. I have some that are that way and I used to get annoyed, frustrated, angry with their behavior, then God showed me that the behavior I see is not really anger and hate at the person that is the focus of the tirade, but rather that these people hate themselves and have to direct that anger onto others.

So, now I just let them vent, usually, even if unfairly directed at me, I know they are wrong in what they say and try to give soft answers to calm the wrath. Turn the other cheek, again and again. Love them with the love of Christ, forgive them and pray for them.

10 Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness’ sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
11 Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake.

Matthew 5:10-11

 

43 Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.
46 For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?
47 And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so?
48 Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.

Matthew 5: 43-48

 

27 But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you,
28 Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.

Luke 6:27-28

 

While those that show you hate may not be enemies, they bear ill will and hate so in that regard, perhaps. But, they are usually directing the hate they feel for themselves onto others. And, are even more in need of Christian love and prayers than one knows. I will pray that the misery they feel ceases and they find the peace of Christ.

 

Lord, I praise You and thank You for the guidance and knowledge You are giving me. I pray that those who direct hate at me seek in themselves what it is they hate and deal with it rather through You. I ask You to give me patience and tolerance while dealing with this trial. I thank You for the faith, love, forgiveness and the redemption from my sins through Your Son, Jesus. I pray that You work in the hearts of loved ones that they find the love and salvation only You can offer. Draw us all closer to You.

In the name of Jesus I offer my prayers to You.

Amen

 

Once again, I thank all who read this blog. I hope that you are blessed and are able to pass blessings on to others as you go about your lives today.

 

 

Hate the sin?

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I was going to put up a picture of some sort that said hate the sin, not the sinner. Well, I saw this and felt it was very true for, well, everybody. There are way too many of us (Yes, US, I include me in this) that look at others and say, well, I hate that sin they are committing or committed, but I love the sinner. Now, it is not wrong to hate sin, and definitely not wrong to love the sinner, but I saw this and it was kind of eye opening. I see this saying, not only what is written, but that it somewhat implies to me that there is judging going on when we start hating others’ sins. If we are busy judging, we are busy being wrong. Seems Mr Lowry kind of says, maybe we better worry about keeping ourselves in order and not others. Yup, makes sense too. Yet, there are way more out there that enjoy hating the sin (many times hating the sinner as well, but pretend to be criticizing them out of Christian love.)

I will be honest, it is an easy trap to fall into and hard to get out of once trapped. We see the sin, we judge the sinner by default. Now, some is genuine concern, but often it is out of spite, hatred, jealousy, any number of causes. We have all seen others sin, others have seen us sin. But, no one has to answer for another persons sins. Now, seems we need to just love, not hate. No, we don’t have to love the sin, but we don’t have to feed the hatred either. But, sadly, there are those that enjoy hating, many professing to be outstanding Christian, some even fooling themselves and others of that, but hating the sin and the sinner. But, I reckon that is not for me to decide, hating is a sin, and that is for God to deal with, put conviction in their hearts and let them suffer the consequences if the go on about life ignoring those convictions.

I ignored convictions of my own sins while being worried about those of others.

But he that hateth his brother is in darkness, and walketh in darkness, and knoweth not whither he goeth, because that darkness hath blinded his eyes.          I John 2:11

Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him. I John 3:15

If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?          I John 4:20

So, I think Mr Lowry is correct, don’t hate another’s sins, hate your own. Love the sinner. No, don’t love the sin, but don’t waste your time and effort hating someone else’s sin, let them do that themselves.

Lord, I praise You and glorify you. I thank You for the instructions You provide me so that I can improve my walk with You. I as that You continue to work on me as there is so much more that needs done. I ask that You work in the hearts and minds of loved ones, help them all improve their own walks with You and draw those not walking with You closer so they walk as You wish they walk.

 

Thanks for visiting my blog. I hope everyone is a blessing to someone. Please share if you feel it will help someone else. As always, it helped me understand me and my areas of needed improvement so I can better walk with Christ.