Never happy, always angry.

Have you ever had to deal with someone that for no good reason is just never happy. Oh, they pretend to be happy but if you look it’s a facade and you can tell there is no true joy. Even worse than that, they are obviously angry and it’s easy to see since they are continuously not only quick to complain about almost everyone and everything if not absolutely everyone and everything. But not only are they trying to find any excuse to complain about things they almost immediately go from complaining about others but they attack them. Spreading half truths, outright lies and saying vile things about them. And, when they are doing all that, creating chaos and drama that they seem to thrive. Only being happy themselves when they are hurting others and causing them to be unhappy. Doing all they can to try to harass others and spread misery.

11 Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.
12 There is one lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy: who art thou that judgest another?

James 4:11-12

When one reviews the psychiatry and psychology literature it becomes obvious that those who behave that way are actually trying to project the feelings they have about themselves onto others. They feel badly about themselves and want to make others feel badly too, so that they feel “normal” because they think “if everyone else is miserable like me, I am mostly normal, and if I was the cause of the misery, then I have some power in life over others.” The individuals are filled with self hate, self loathing, low self esteem and the only way they can feel a sense of self worth is through trying to hurt others and make them feel badly. It is truly sad that one has that mindset, but there are a lot of people out there that are exactly that way. Finding joy in others sorrow and feeling sad if they realize others have any joy. They feel no remorse when they mistreat others, instead feeling or at least acting like, it is their personal right to do such.

How does one help someone like that? Can they be helped? Sadly, most are narcissistic to one extent or another and they justify their actions as their right that supersedes the rights of others. The literally have no regard for others but can do a great job pretending to be concerned and can at times be quite charming when they feel they have something to gain from someone and they believe that behavior will help them so at times, will say nice things to make another feel good about themselves, but that is usually short lived and once they decide another person is not beneficial to them, they will attack, and attack ruthlessly. Which takes us back to the way that some will complain and attack others. But, the bottom line for those people is that they hate themselves, try to use others to validate themselves and in other ways use people to try to help their own self esteem.

12 But what I do, that I will do, that I may cut off occasion from them which desire occasion; that wherein they glory, they may be found even as we.

13 For such are false apostles, deceitful workers, transforming themselves into the apostles of Christ.

14 And no marvel; for Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light.

15 Therefore it is no great thing if his ministers also be transformed as the ministers of righteousness; whose end shall be according to their works.

2 Corinthians 11:12-15

If having some sort of “crisis” where they express doubts and concerns to people, ask for help, ask what is wrong, etc, and the person tries to help them by telling them what they have observed, then they attack that person as well.

He that refuseth instruction despiseth his own soul: but he that heareth reproof getteth understanding.  Proverbs 15:32

Sadly, these people can be subtle how they do things, sometimes, not so subtle, but when that pattern of behavior is observed, be cautious and realize that you can pray for them, but that they often will deny they are wrong so feel they have no reason to talk to God about anything. But, one continues to pray with the hope that God works in that person’s life.

Lord, I praise Your name and worship you for Your majesty. Thank You for the blessings and life lessons that helps me to improve my walk with You and makes my life better. I pray in the name of Jesus that You continue to help me see and understand others better and how to deal with those that behave in negative manner so I can avoid getting trapped in difficult circumstances or caught up in the drama that some try to create. I ask that You reach those who are that way and show them Your truth and work in their hearts that the do right by You and others. I pray that You draw my loved ones to You and show them how to receive the forgiveness and mercy that You offer.

Amen.

I appreciate those who take the time to visit my blog and read my posts. I hope all are having a blessed Christmas season and are able to be a blessing to others as well.

You are what you eat!

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I have been trying to be more careful about dietary choices, exercising more and such to lose weight and that has been successful, praise God for His help in keeping cravings down. I love sweets so that has been a challenge. BUT, there are other things that can make one gain weight as well. Too much fat in the diet, good food but too much of it, fried foods (kinda too much fat and other ingredients that make it not great) too many sweets, etc. Made me think about how they sometimes say you are what you eat. If you eat unhealthy foods, you become unhealthy and if you make healthy food choices you will be more healthy. In the past, I made unhealthy choices on what I fed my soul. I fed it anger, bitterness, sorrow and pain and, I felt that way. Spiritually and emotionally drained, no joy, only negative feelings. But now, I feed my soul with His word, seeking God, praying, rejoicing and again, to no surprise, I am happy, healthy, spiritually fit. Like my physical health I need to get even more healthy, but I am much more so that I once was and will be getting better as I continue my spiritually healthy diet and working out my prayer muscles. I praise the Lord for the help He has, and is, giving me to keep me on track to not only maintain, but to improve, my  relationship with Him.

The same thing applies to life in general, if one lives with or associates with people that exude hate, anger and bitterness, they become hateful, angry and bitter but if they live with love, compassion and joy they learn to love, care and to be happy.  Oh there will be days that the happiest person has sad things happen but they don’t stay sad. If you feed yourself spiritually, you will be spiritually healthier. Spend time in prayer, reading the scripture and with other Christians at church and elsewhere. You will also be more spiritual in the process, a better servant and example of Christ on this world.

And he said unto me, It is done. I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end. I will give unto him that is athirst of the fountain of the water of life freely.  Revelation 21:6

 

22 And as they did eat, Jesus took bread, and blessed, and brake it, and gave to them, and said, Take, eat: this is my body.
23 And he took the cup, and when he had given thanks, he gave it to them: and they all drank of it.
24 And he said unto them, This is my blood of the new testament, which is shed for many.
25 Verily I say unto you, I will drink no more of the fruit of the vine, until that day that I drink it new in the kingdom of God.

Mark 14:22-25

 

Lord, I am always in awe of You and the way You teach me things. I thank You for the lessons. I ask that You help me continue to grow in You and that I feed myself the good food and the water of life that You offer and avoid the things that will interfere with my walk with Christ. Draw us all to You and work in the hearts and minds of my loved ones to show them Your path for them and the way to salvation for those not saved. That all they need do is confess their sins and acknowledge Jesus as Your Son that sacrificed for all our sins.

In Jesus Name, Amen

 

Thank you for stopping by today. Remember to feed your soul with only good. Avoid the negative, if it seems unavoidable, spend more time in prayer and study of His Word. I hope all have a blessed day, and get the chance to bless someone else as well.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Contentment

 

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Contentment is elusive, rather it once was for me. I had faced and was facing difficult times and was unhappy with everything. This has happened before with feeling nearly overwhelmed by life’s events, not truly depressed but sad most of the time and definitely not happy. I found contentment at times through work, projects, spending time hunting and other ways. Well, that isn’t accurate, I found distraction from my discontent but once that distraction was done the unhappiness returned. I could only briefly find what I thought was real contentment but it was only temporary as well. I could not find true long lasting contentment.

The reason I couldn’t find contentment is that there was a void in my life and soul. The void there was due to my failure to follow Christ and not have Him in my life. There were other contributors as well, loss of my parents, issues from war, marital problems and many other issues; yet regardless of those things there wouldn’t have been a void if I’d had God in my life. Rather if there were any voids that developed he would have filled them with His love and grace.

But I never had to have that void as it would not have existed if I’d been following Jesus. And, while I may still have areas that cause me sorrow, the voids have filled tremendously. What voids exist now only exist due to my failure to fully release the issues to Christ, but I am far better about that than I was and they are nearly completely filled.

Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled. Matthew 5:6

 

And they did all eat, and were filled: and they took up of the fragments that remained twelve baskets full. Matthew 14:20

 

Blessed are ye that hunger now: for ye shall be filled. Blessed are ye that weep now: for ye shall laugh.      Luke 6:21

 

1 And when the day of Pentecost was fully come, they were all with one accord in one place.
2 And suddenly there came a sound from heaven as of a rushing mighty wind, and it filled all the house where they were sitting.
3 And there appeared unto them cloven tongues like as of fire, and it sat upon each of them.
4 And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance.

Acts 2:1-4

 

Great is my boldness of speech toward you, great is my glorying of you: I am filled with comfort, I am exceeding joyful in all our tribulation. 2 Corinthians 7:4

 

And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God. Ephesians 3:19

 

10 But I rejoiced in the Lord greatly, that now at the last your care of me hath flourished again; wherein ye were also careful, but ye lacked opportunity.
11 Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.
12 I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.
13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

Philippians 4:10-13

 

I hunger and thirst for His ways in my life. I trust in Christ to fill the voids and to fill them to overflowing, with his love, mercy, grace, forgiveness and Holy Spirit. He has not failed to do so. I hungered, I ached, I had pain and suffering, emptiness and those He has fed me with His word. He removed the pain, filled the emptiness and made me so much more than I was before. I continue to sometimes have small areas that need refilled. But, that is part of life. I have access to the perfect One to fill me to overflowing. I praise God for His love, mercy and forgiveness.

 

Lord, You are so much more glorious than I can express. I praise You and worship You. I thank You for filling those voids in my life and heart. In Jesus Name I ask that You continue to fill them and help me have more faith in You to completely and totally surrender all to You. I also ask that You help me learn to seek You better and know You ever more deeply. Help me reach others for You and to be the servant that You wish me to be in this world. I ask You to work in the hearts and minds of loved ones, show them all Your truths, the salvation they may have and the way You have planned for their lives. I thank You for my salvation, the forgiveness of my sins and the guidance and mercies You have shown me.

Amen

 

Thanks for the visit folks. I hope God blesses you all and gives all contentment. Maybe you aren’t happy about where you are in life, sometimes on has to just be content to be alive and look Him to take care of the rest. If He is with you, then you are blessed.