Sometimes I make my tongue hurt.

tongue

Did you ever have a time where you wanted to say something, and did so without giving thought to whether you should say it or not? Or, times you felt like saying something but bit your tongue as you wanted to wait and give it a little thought before saying it? Maybe give someone your honest opinion about something or tell them something true that they you think they should hear but may be hurtful or upsetting to them so you hold off and consider if you should say it and if you should you wish to consider options on how to tell them. Perhaps it is because of something they did to you or said about you or someone else. Maybe they did something wrong and you want to make sure they know. Possibly something they are doing wrong and sinning and you are wanting to help them by letting them know what they are doing is a sin. Or someone fixed you dinner but what they fixed is not seasoned properly and you want to help them by letting them know it has too much garlic or salt or was a little overcooked? The list of things one can find to criticize another is pretty lengthy. I know it sure wouldn’t take a lot of effort for someone to find ways to criticize me.

Sometimes, criticism is needful and beneficial but many times it is simply a way for someone to try to attack another. I have had people claim they were giving “constructive criticism” that was nothing more than a way for them to try to demean me and either make themselves feel better by making negative comments about me or simply to make me feel bad about myself or whatever it was that I had done. I have to admit that I have at times done that to others and said things that didn’t really need to be said out of anger or because I was upset. Regardless of the reason for my feelings, I thought I was justified to say something and at times I did. No thought about the real reason for saying it or what benefit it may have for others if I were to say what I was feeling. Maybe someone said hurtful things to me so I wanted to hurt them back during a conversation or argument so out the words come and words can be quite powerful but the words often impact the recipient and the speaker in undesirable ways.

 

Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. Ephesians 4:29

 

Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.  Psalms 19:14

 

He that hath knowledge spareth his words: [and] a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit. Proverbs 17:27

 

A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. Proverbs 15:1

 

If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion [is] vain. James 1:26

 

Let your speech [be] alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man. Colossians 4:6

 

Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. Ephesians 4:29

 

Yeah, I know I started and ended the scriptures here with the same verse. Because, well the lesson for me is important. FIRST, I need to remember to NOT let corrupt communication proceed from my mouth. I need to consider if I am speaking the truth for the need of the one hearing it or if I am saying it to please myself because I am angry or have any motivation other than helping someone and glorifying Christ. I have in the past had no hesitation to speak my mind, often times not considering if it is right that I say whatever. Oh, it may not have been false or wrong, but it also may not have been beneficial for anyone that I give words to my thoughts. Christ has helped me with that. I am much better about pausing before I speak, biting my tongue until I have thought about things a little and often I find I really think it is better NOT to say something. Oh, I may REALLY WANT to say it, but that is the selfish human part of me and not Christ so I bite my tongue. He helps me hold my tongue and I do need help with that.  I have also come to better realize that those to whom I want to speak harshly or criticize about their actions don’t need to hear me. Those who have sinned, against me, others, themselves and most importantly against God, well, they already KNOW that they did so and me saying something to them is basically rubbing the sin in their faces and being judgmental. Neither of which benefits me or others so as such, the words are corrupt.

I also repeated the verse because not only do I need to make sure the words are not corrupt, but that they will benefit the one to whom I am speaking and me as well. That it will build them up, bring them closer to Christ and glorify the Lord. God has helped me be more careful to hold my words, pick the right words and I am thankful that He has done so.

 

Lord, Praise Your Holy Name. I thank You so much for helping me learn when I should speak and when I should hold my words, for helping me learn better how to consider the reason and impact of what words I would use. I ask that You continue to help me with this as I still have a long way to go to be where I should be with this and many other issues. In Jesus name I pray that You use my words, spoken and written, only to glorify You and to help others, to draw them to You. To show them Your glory, peace, comfort and the salvation You offer us all. That my words serve You and help others. And, to not say those things out of human desires of vengeance, anger or vanity. Give me the right words at the right time. I ask that You better help me seek You and that You use me for Your glory. Please draw loved ones to You and help us all see Your plan for us.

Amen

Thanks for your time today. I hope something blessed or helped another today and please, try to be a blessing to someone else as you go about your days.

 

 

Advertisements

Read the instructions

furniture

 

I needed to put together some chairs my daughter bought and kinda glanced at the instructions then got started on the first one. Things were going fine pieces fitting together and all with no problems, then not so good. Things weren’t quite right. The last few parts wouldn’t go on because parts I had already put together were in the way. So I took some parts off, put the pieces I needed on and then tried putting the ones I took off back on. Nope, still not right so I did what many hate to do and read the instructions. Once I did that I had to remove several parts then do it according to the instructions. Of course, it all went together fine and chair one was finished after that they all went together pretty quickly. Why didn’t I read the instructions first? Well, pride plain and simple. I’m fairly smart and thought it would be no problem and that I would easily figure it all out. What I figured out is that I should have read the instructions to begin with and I’d have saved myself time and frustration.

Life is that way too, one tries to use their own “intelligence” to figure out how to do things, what path to take and at least for me, failing to spend time in prayer, reading the Bible and seeking God’s guidance and will for me has lead to difficulties, frustration and repeated set backs as I end up struggling to get to the desired end point. Finally, realizing I need to back up and read the instructions. Starting over and actually using His word and will to help me get to build my life in the way He wants. So much of my life would have been far simpler if I had done so all along.

 

Let them alone: they be blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch. Matthew 15:14

At times I was the blind, trying to lead myself and, yeah, you got it, I fell into a ditch, spiritually and needed a way out of that ditch where I was trapped in the mire of life without Christ.

 

Behold, thou hast instructed many, and thou hast strengthened the weak hands.  Job 4:3

 

2 To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding;
3 To receive the instruction of wisdom, justice, and judgment, and equity;
4 To give subtilty to the simple, to the young man knowledge and discretion.

Proverbs 1:2-4

Proverbs has so much on instruction from the Lord and it is well worth looking over when you have the opportunity.

14 But continue thou in the things which thou hast learned and hast been assured of, knowing of whom thou hast learned them;
15 And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.
16 All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:
17 That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works.

2 Timothy 3:14-17

 

Yes, He gives us the instruction we need to build our lives in the way that Christ would have us live and to give us a full and rich life in the Holy Spirit that we all have available if we follow Him.

 

Lord, I praise You and thank You for the salvation I have been given through the blood of Christ. I ask that You help me better remember the importance of seeking You, Your will for me and that I need to look to Your word and You to know the right way to proceed. That I always remember to seek Your instruction for me. I pray in Jesus name that You help me better have the heart and mind of Christ and that I look to Him for the way ahead in my life. I ask that You continue the work You have started in me that I better serve You. Draw loved ones to You and show us all the plans You have for our lives. For those not saved, help me be an example of Your love for others that they want what You have given me, salvation and forgiveness of my sins through the sacrifice of Your Son, Jesus.

Amen.

 

Thank you all for your time today, I hope all have a blessed day and that you are able to be a blessing to others.