Kicking the skunk

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I often wonder how many others have to deal with various issues I have encountered. I seriously doubt that I am that different and there must be others who experience similar life circumstances, deal with similar people that can be difficult to tolerate at times, people that seem to live to antagonize others. We always have to deal with multiple people throughout our days some are great with which to interact and others, to put it kindly, with whom the interactions are very difficult. They seem to just look for any and all opportunities to try and antagonize others or many others. Seeming to me that they are so unhappy with themselves that they can only find joy by trying to spread the discontent they feel. Sometimes masking their antagonism with pretense of compliments or concern. Backhanded complements that are actually criticisms. Other times pretending to be concerned so they tell you something but are actually trying to cause you more problems, worries or stress, “warning you” about something that may be going to happen because of something they heard or saw, but waiting hours, days or weeks before telling you. More like they were trying to find out if there was a problem they thought might happen so they could enjoy someone else’s misery. It seems they will do anything they can do to try to cause you and others problems, but pretend that they mean well when they said or did whatever it was that was intended as a negative, despite acting concerned.

Well, I have some that seem to enjoy doing things like those I mentioned. I have learned to ignore them and pray for them. But, sometimes, they are not happy if you ignore them and will look for the chance to try to try, to use a phrase I know, “kick the skunk.” Just looking for a chance to create as much stink as possible. But, those who try to kick the skunk and run, usually have more “stink” from their actions than those they hoped would get “sprayed.”

Amazing to me that there are people who only find any joy in their life by trying to create drama in others’ lives or to try challenge your salvation or make you question it, trying to cause enough problems to try to make you stumble. Just waiting to have the chance to point and say “I told you he was lying and isn’t really saved.”  Well, unfortunately for them, I have a joy they cannot steal. I have God and He will protect me from these feeble attempts to cause me problems. He is my Rock and my Salvation. My fortress in times of attack.  Christ uses these things to help make my faith stronger.

10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.
11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;
15 And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;
16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.
17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:
18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;
19 And for me, that utterance may be given unto me, that I may open my mouth boldly, to make known the mystery of the gospel,
20 For which I am an ambassador in bonds: that therein I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak.

Ephesians 6:10-20

 

1 And David spake unto the LORD the words of this song in the day that the LORD had delivered him out of the hand of all his enemies, and out of the hand of Saul:
2 And he said, The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer;
3 The God of my rock; in him will I trust: he is my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my high tower, and my refuge, my saviour; thou savest me from violence.
4 I will call on the LORD, who is worthy to be praised: so shall I be saved from mine enemies.

2 Samuel 22:1-4

 

Sadly, there are a lot of people out there who are only content to spread discontent, allowing themselves to be used by the enemy to try to cause others to stumble. I praise God that He provides me the faith, strength, love and mercy to not only stand up to such attacks, but to grow stronger in Christ with each of the attacks.

 

Lord, I praise Your Holy Name and worship You. I thank You for the challenges and trials that You use to strengthen my faith and my relationship with Christ. I pray for those who seek to cause problems for others, that they learn of You and seek You rather than allow Satan to try to use them to try to destroy others or cause them problems. I ask in Jesus Name that You continue to work in me and use me to draw others to You. Please work in the lives of loved ones to bring them to You so they will know Your true will and way in their lives so they may follow You and live the life You plan for each one of us.

Amen

 

I appreciate you taking your time to read my post today. I hope that something was a blessing to someone, so they learn better how to deal with difficult people or circumstances. I hope all have a blessed day and find a way to bless at least one other person.

 

 

 

BEES! BEES!!!

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I remember when I was young, Pop kept bees. I always enjoyed going to help him when he went to collect the honey. He’d always cut a little piece of the honey comb and give it to me. I loved that stuff. Well, at first though, I hated getting very close, always bees buzzing about the hives. I was maybe 4 or 5, and would start to swat at them. Pop would say, as he often did, “You think that’s a good idea?” And, he would chuckle. Well, I had finally learned that him asking if something was a good idea, it probably wasn’t. I watched him, he just did his stuff with the hives, bees buzzing around him but never bothering him. He didn’t try to swat at them or shoo them away, he ignored them and they just buzzed around but didn’t sting him. He didn’t even wear the hood and such like some do. He just used the smoker thing, puffed it into the hive he was working on and pulled the honey combs out and put new frames back in place, close up the hive and we’d go back to the house. Well, I got used to the bees and didn’t pay them much mind after a while.

Have you noticed how some people react to bees, some like Pop, would just do their thing, ignore the bees and not worry about them. Knowing that if you antagonize by swatting at them, it makes you suffer. Even if one wins fighting bees, since the bees die after stinging someone, you still have to deal with the sting.  Some people get frantic, if one gets into the car while they are driving, they will go nuts and forget about driving just because the bee is in the car.

Then, there are the killer bees, much more aggressive and will sting with very little provocation. Those, you really need to avoid swatting at since they are just, well, angry, and looking for a reason to try to sting.

That got me to thinking how some people are, they like to buzz around, try to annoy others and if the ones they are annoying try to shoo them off, swat at them and such, they try to sting. I had a coworker, well, not exactly a coworker, but someone that worked in the same area, but lets call her Sue that liked to do that, antagonize others, and if they responded harshly, Sue loved to try to make complaints to their supervisor, who for some reason thought that Sue was all that and a bag of chips. Well, sometimes the person she antagonized got some sort of counseling and Sue would think she had won. But, she just made it so others don’t want to work around her. Others had figured out exactly how she was so they ignored her buzzing around, her trying to instigate things and just went on about their business. Funny thing is, that made Sue even more angry so she tried to escalate and see what happens. Never physical, but boy would she try to talk about someone, make sure whatever gossip she tried to pass on or make up would get back to the person she was gossiping about. She would accuse them of all sorts of things, saying things, doing things, often supposedly saying they said or did things when they weren’t even at work. Well, after all that, people knew and rarely anymore would respond to her behavior because they had figured out how she does. And, the supervisor finally started wondering why it was always Sue that came to make the complaints. Instead of just counseling the other employees, she started talking with them. Then, she checked back on Sue’s prior reviews and employee records and found that there were multiple times that Sue was apparently the instigator, not the victim. The supervisor started watching closer and began to get a bigger picture of the situation. Then, she finally realized that Sue was far from what the supervisor thought. Somewhat the same pattern that had occurred in other departments Sue worked in previously. Yeah, funny how bees tend to be bees, and letting them do their buzzing, but ignoring them doesn’t cause one problems, even if the bees think they are actually making an impact.

1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. 2 The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness. 3 The eyes of the LORD are in every place, beholding the evil and the good. 4 A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit.

Proverbs 15:1-4

Sometimes, as hard as it is, one must do all they can to give a soft answer to those that act hateful towards them or try to antagonize. Don’t swat at them, don’t respond, let them bee (get it, weak play on words, but I try.) Sometimes, soft answers don’t work. What do you do then?

38 Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: 39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also. 40 And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloke also.

Matthew 5:38-40

Yeah, human nature is to lash back, to strike when struck. It is so easy to fall into that trap. I will remember these words as well as Pop’s taking about swatting and giving the bees reason to sting. Oh, I will let them buzz about but they can’t really harm me with their behavior so I ignore the Sue’s in the world, let them behave as they wish.

I’ve been the bee, the antagonist. But, through Christ that is no longer the case. I’ve been the antagonized as well. Only difference now is how I respond. Now I turn the other cheek, I hold my tongue and know that I am following His words. I don’t try to fight back, physically or verbally. God gives me the strength because it sure aint my way.

Jesus, I worship You. I praise Your Holy Name and thank You for salvation and Your sacrifice and pain suffered You that made it possible  I thank You for your lessons. The sometimes painful lessons You give me. I pray You give me the wisdom to both not be the bee and to ignore the bees in my life and I ask You continue Your work in me that I instead am a blessing to others. Give me Your heart and mind and the love that You wish me to have. I ask You to work in the hearts and minds of loved ones, draw them to You, give them the understanding for Your will and way, bring those not saved to You. Use me to help.

Amen

 

Thanks for the visit, and remember, don’t swat at the bees. Try and BEE a blessing to at least one person and you will be blessed in return.