The new sins?

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I was on social media earlier and saw the link below (okay, I hope it is a link, but you may need to cut and paste) but so much on social media, online in general that we have new sins, well, not really new sins, just new, more advanced ways to sin.

 

https://www.crosswalk.com/slideshows/10-online-sins-we-re-all-aPridepparently-okay-with.html?utm_source=fbad&utm_campaign=CW+Boosted+Post+-+%2Fslideshows%2F10-online-sins-we-re-all-apparently-okay-with.html-lal&utm_medium=fbad&utm_term=paid

It’s an interesting read, so I would recommend all take a couple minutes to read through the article. But, for those that just want the low down, here is the list and the scripture they quote for each:

  1. Indulgence: But the widow who lives for pleasure is dead even while she lives. 1 Timothy 5:6 (NIV)
  2. Materialism: Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them. 1 John 2:15 )(NIV)
  3. Pride: 23 This is what the Lord says: “Let not the wise boast of their wisdom
    or the strong boast of their strength or the rich boast of their riches,
    24 but let the one who boasts boast about this: that they have the understanding to know me, that I am the Lord, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight,” declares the Lord. Jeremiah 9:23-24 (NIV) 
  4. Slander: Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29 (NIV)
  5. Quarreling: It is to one’s honor to avoid strife,but every fool is quick to quarrel. Proverbs 20:3 (NIV)
  6. Vanity: 3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. Philipians 2:3-4  (NIV)
  7. Discontentment: I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.  Philipians 4:11 (NIV)
  8. Hypocrisy: “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence.” Matthew 23: (NIV)
  9. Hatred: 43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be children of your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:43-45(NIV)
  10. Jealousy: For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16 (NIV)

I wish I could say I had never been guilty of any of them, but, some I have, some I have not. Some, I probably did and didn’t realize: Slander-calling someone a jerk or such, maybe true, maybe not. Quarreling? No, I haven’t really done that online, but boy have I had some try to draw me into an argument on social media. Jealousy, Yeah, but not to horrible extent, but possibly wishing I had the car, house, etc but not as bad as a lot. Some of the others, probably most to at least a small extent. Most of us probably are at least a little guilty of all of them and some are REALLY guilty of some but barely guilty of others. Yet, I wonder how many adapt an online persona that is different than their true selves. Some get very brash, hostile, aggressive, or any other way you would like to say, because the internet allows a certain amount of insulation from our actions and other times, anonymity. Even if we know a person not looking them in the eye or even speaking on the phone, our actions can be very different than in person. I have had some seriously attack me via text, chat, email, and such, but they are afraid to speak directly too me anywhere near the way they do when the conversation is electronic.

A lot of the ways, I would suspect most don’t initially think about some of the things listed as sinning. Some are subtle, and I can easily see myself thinking, well, it isn’t a real sin, since its online. But, as the author of that article points out, it is sinning to be sure. So many ways that it is far easier to sin than we realize.

 

Lord, I praise Your Holy Name, I ask that You help me avoid any of these sins, and other sins, forgive me any of my failures and I pray that those I have sinned against forgive me as I have forgiven any who have done me wrong. I pray in Jesus Name that You work in me and give me the help I need to better serve You. Please draw loved ones nearer to You and those that are sinning, show them their sins so they are convicted and find their way to forgiveness from You through Your Son Christ. Teach us all how to be the Christians that You wish for us to become.

Amen

 

Thanks for your time, I do suggest you read the article. Have a blessed day, and try to be a blessing to others.

 

 

 

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Kicking the skunk

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I often wonder how many others have to deal with various issues I have encountered. I seriously doubt that I am that different and there must be others who experience similar life circumstances, deal with similar people that can be difficult to tolerate at times, people that seem to live to antagonize others. We always have to deal with multiple people throughout our days some are great with which to interact and others, to put it kindly, with whom the interactions are very difficult. They seem to just look for any and all opportunities to try and antagonize others or many others. Seeming to me that they are so unhappy with themselves that they can only find joy by trying to spread the discontent they feel. Sometimes masking their antagonism with pretense of compliments or concern. Backhanded complements that are actually criticisms. Other times pretending to be concerned so they tell you something but are actually trying to cause you more problems, worries or stress, “warning you” about something that may be going to happen because of something they heard or saw, but waiting hours, days or weeks before telling you. More like they were trying to find out if there was a problem they thought might happen so they could enjoy someone else’s misery. It seems they will do anything they can do to try to cause you and others problems, but pretend that they mean well when they said or did whatever it was that was intended as a negative, despite acting concerned.

Well, I have some that seem to enjoy doing things like those I mentioned. I have learned to ignore them and pray for them. But, sometimes, they are not happy if you ignore them and will look for the chance to try to try, to use a phrase I know, “kick the skunk.” Just looking for a chance to create as much stink as possible. But, those who try to kick the skunk and run, usually have more “stink” from their actions than those they hoped would get “sprayed.”

Amazing to me that there are people who only find any joy in their life by trying to create drama in others’ lives or to try challenge your salvation or make you question it, trying to cause enough problems to try to make you stumble. Just waiting to have the chance to point and say “I told you he was lying and isn’t really saved.”  Well, unfortunately for them, I have a joy they cannot steal. I have God and He will protect me from these feeble attempts to cause me problems. He is my Rock and my Salvation. My fortress in times of attack.  Christ uses these things to help make my faith stronger.

10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.
11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;
15 And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;
16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.
17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:
18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;
19 And for me, that utterance may be given unto me, that I may open my mouth boldly, to make known the mystery of the gospel,
20 For which I am an ambassador in bonds: that therein I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak.

Ephesians 6:10-20

 

1 And David spake unto the LORD the words of this song in the day that the LORD had delivered him out of the hand of all his enemies, and out of the hand of Saul:
2 And he said, The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer;
3 The God of my rock; in him will I trust: he is my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my high tower, and my refuge, my saviour; thou savest me from violence.
4 I will call on the LORD, who is worthy to be praised: so shall I be saved from mine enemies.

2 Samuel 22:1-4

 

Sadly, there are a lot of people out there who are only content to spread discontent, allowing themselves to be used by the enemy to try to cause others to stumble. I praise God that He provides me the faith, strength, love and mercy to not only stand up to such attacks, but to grow stronger in Christ with each of the attacks.

 

Lord, I praise Your Holy Name and worship You. I thank You for the challenges and trials that You use to strengthen my faith and my relationship with Christ. I pray for those who seek to cause problems for others, that they learn of You and seek You rather than allow Satan to try to use them to try to destroy others or cause them problems. I ask in Jesus Name that You continue to work in me and use me to draw others to You. Please work in the lives of loved ones to bring them to You so they will know Your true will and way in their lives so they may follow You and live the life You plan for each one of us.

Amen

 

I appreciate you taking your time to read my post today. I hope that something was a blessing to someone, so they learn better how to deal with difficult people or circumstances. I hope all have a blessed day and find a way to bless at least one other person.

 

 

 

Antibiotics aren’t the cure

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I mentioned before that my job is helping people, well, I am a physician. And, at times at work I often have patients come in and say, “I need antibiotics.” When I ask them why, they have sometimes searched the internet and tell me that on google it says they need the antibiotics. Other times, they say, every time I get something like this if I don’t get antibiotics I am sick for 2 weeks. But, when you talk further with them, they admit that every time they get sick they run to get antibiotics. Far more often than not, they either have a cold or allergies, neither of which respond to antibiotics. Colds, are cased by viruses, viruses and allergies are from dust, pollen and other irritants. Bacterial infections are the only ones that improve with antibiotics. I try to explain to them the normal process for a cold, what we call disease progress, that it takes about a week and a half to two weeks to run it’s course and taking antibiotics won’t change it, they are going to be sick for 10-14 days. Now, since they have Dr Google they are sure they are right. Or, they argue, you don’t know my body, I know how I am. Well, no one has a body that is different than others. Viral infections take a certain time period to go through all the phases. No matter what one does, it takes a certain amount of time. While we can treat the symptoms, the disease doesn’t behave differently. Taking antibiotics when you don’t need them exposes a person to risks of reaction or developing resistance to the antibiotic so it doesn’t work when you need it.

But, there are those that “know” they need it, mostly because they say they NEED to get better quickly. So, they pester the doctor, or if the first one won’t give them the medicine they want, they doctor shop until they get the antibiotics. Preferring the easy way, rather than take care of things as they should. Since the antibiotics don’t work to actually treat viruses, the only benefit is if they have a placebo effect, but it still isn’t a cure and the cold won’t get better faster. All they did was waste money on the medication and expose themselves to risks of drug reactions and other complications. Finding themselves, after the cold is done, exactly where they would have been had they taken the right steps to begin with anyway. But, some KNOW it was the antibiotics, regardless of the actual cause of the illness. The antibiotics they demanded were of no more benefit than placebo (sugar pills.) Funny thing about placebo is that up to 40% or more patients if having pain, say from a broken bone, when given a placebo, have reduced pain levels shortly after taking the fake medication.

I see that in the way some people approach their lives. They decide they need something to make it better, maybe they want to eat, go shopping (when they don’t need anything,) get a new car, move to new house or apartment, or many other thins, but when they get that, they may be feeling like their life is better temporarily, but soon they often realize that they aren’t really better off. The initial benefit is a placebo effect, what they did had no effect on the situation, they just deceived themselves into thinking it helped. Why would that be so? It is because the problem cannot be fixed with something, often people are unhappy with themselves and using other things, food, shopping, cars, and such are only bandaids, placebo items and the problem is within and failure to fix oneself will result in feeling the same in the end.

What is the best method to improve ones self? Seeking God, praying, studying the Bible, learning how to live the way Christ wants us to live. Those not saved, need to confess that Christ is the Son of God that died for our sins and confess their sins to Him.

1 Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me.
2 In my Father’s house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you.
3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.
4 And whither I go ye know, and the way ye know.
5 Thomas saith unto him, Lord, we know not whither thou goest; and how can we know the way?
6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.
7 If ye had known me, ye should have known my Father also: and from henceforth ye know him, and have seen him.

John 14:1-7

 

We only need believe in Jesus and we can find the true cure for our problems, illnesses, financial, loneliness, marriage problems, whatever is causing one to not be happy with their lives. He will give us what we need and what we ask for in His name.

 

12 Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father.
13 And whatsoever ye shall ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son.
14 If ye shall ask any thing in my name, I will do it.

John 14:12-14

 

Whosoever therefore shall confess me before men, him will I confess also before my Father which is in heaven. Matthew 10:32

 

9 That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.
10 For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
11 For the scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on him shall not be ashamed.

Romans 10:9-11

 

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

 

What a mighty, merciful and gracious God we serve. He allowed His son to be crucified to give us redemption and life eternal.

 

Lord, I praise Your glory and majesty. I thank You for the gift of salvation through Your son Jesus. I pray in His Name that You continue Your work in my life, make me into the servant You have planned and guide my steps as I follow You. I ask that You work in the hearts and minds of others, guide them into Your will and Your way for their lives. Draw the unsaved to You that they may have redemption as well. Show them that Christ is the cure for the problems of human existence and not possessions. The most precious possession of all is redemption and salvation from sin, with life eternal with You and Christ.

Amen

 

Thanks for the time today. I know that everyone has a lot going on and the moments of your time are appreciated.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Some days are tough.

14 If ye shall ask any thing in my name, I will do it.
15 If ye love me, keep my commandments.
16 And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever;
17 Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you.
18 I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.

John 14:14-18

 

Well, even though it is my birthday, some other memories bring pain and sorrow. Memories about losses. Others that were once happy, that now are a cause of hurt. While reflecting on such things I realize that there are so very few truly honorable, loyal, and kind people in comparison to those that say and do what they think will serve them best. Their loyalty extends only as far as the benefits they receive and seem to have no remorse for breaking promises. Others, have no hesitation to twist the truth or blatantly lie for personal benefit and have no regard for the damage their actions cause.

I mentioned that my dad passed minutes after my birthday a few years ago and, while he had his faults, no one but Christ was perfect, he was a good man. He was a bit gruff at times, but he never lied to me, broke a promise (without extremely good cause, and then made up for it) tried to use or manipulate me. He was without a doubt, one of the most honorable men I have ever known and I try to be that kind of man. Oh, I fail at times in one way or another, but I still try and when I fail, I try harder.

But regardless of human weaknesses that cause people to do hurtful things to others, to physically or emotionally abandon them, Jesus won’t, He will be here for me, for whoever needs Him. He is forever and always there, and never changing, not making different decisions that are opposite of their words and promises. Praise God for the gift and sacrifice of His Son, Jesus.

 

5 Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.
6 So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me.
7 Remember them which have the rule over you, who have spoken unto you the word of God: whose faith follow, considering the end of their conversation.
8 Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.

Hebrews 13:5-8

 

Yes, some days are tough, because, well, sometimes they are, but sometimes particular dates have the memories attached to them that can bring pain. Yet, no matter how much pain, hurt and sorrow I may feel, Christ is with me and comforts me. He gives me peace that passes all understanding. Praise His Holy Name!

4 Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice.
5 Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.
6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Philippians 4:4-8

 

So, regardless of the difficulties, sorrows and pain, I will rejoice in the Lord. He is so much more worthy of praise than I am worthy of Him.

 

My Heavenly Father, I praise and rejoice in You. I thank You for the blessings, the lessons, the mercy you give me. I so appreciate the sacrifice Jesus made for my redemption. I ask in Jesus name that You be with me today and comfort me, give me peace and joy, remove any hurt I may feel, do that for others as well for I know there are many who are hurting far worse than I. I ask that You continue Your work in me and help me have the heart and mind of Christ, that I forgive without hesitation, that I love all with the love of Jesus. I pray You draw all my loved ones closer to You and those not saved, bring them to Christ. I ask that You show us all Your will and Your way in our lives. I pray for forgiveness for any sins I have committed and thank You for the mercy You show in forgiving them. I praise You Lord.

Amen

 

I appreciate the time you took to read this. Please share if you feel someone would benefit. Otherwise, have a blessed day. And, as always, I ask that you try to be a blessing ot another too.

Praying for a crop failure?

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I have a small acreage, very small, only 40 acres, some is trees, some is yard, a few acres in hay and the remainder was in wheat and it’s time to start harvesting wheat in the area and I was talking with the neighbor about yield on my land. I never expect to make a lot, but I do want to make expenses and hopefully, get enough to pay property taxes. Sometime I do, sometimes, I barely make expenses. Now, for city folks, 40 acres might sound like a lot, but most of the people in my area have way over 600 acres, sometimes 3 or 4 times that, so my farmette isn’t too much. But, the money from the crops is nice. As we were talking, he told me the yield so far, but the better crop land is not quite ready to harvest and I hope that it will be even better, regardless of how good the upper fields do for me. When the fields are planted, I always pray for good crops, the right amount of sunshine, proper temperatures, plenty of rain (but not too much) and no bad weather such as hail or high winds that would destroy the crops. There is too much invested to not get a return.

As I thought about sowing and planting, waiting for the harvest and hoping for reaping large amounts of what was sowed, I also thought about seeing people that seem to be praying for a crop failure. They have sinned, against God or against a person or persons in some way and they fear the harvest of their sins. Perhaps they are afraid that someone will do them the same way that they did others, or maybe even their harvest will be even GREATER than what they sowed. At first they do wrong, feel good about their misdeeds until they start to think about the “reward” for the sins. Fearing the sins will be revisited on them by those they sinned against or others. I would hate to live that way, essentially like a criminal that has escaped jail, always looking over their shoulder, waiting for the police to come and take them back to their prison. Actually when thinking on that, living in that kind of fear and stress is definitely it’s own type of prison and maybe worse than a physical prison. Sadly, many people know what they are planning is a sin, but then still do it and should know that sins are repaid upon the sinner, then, dread when the sins do come back to them.

But if ye will not do so, behold, ye have sinned against the LORD: and be sure your sin will find you out. Numbers 32:23

While one can confess their sins to Christ and be forgiven, depending on the sins, they may not be forgiven by man or society. A car thief can confess to Christ, be saved and have forgiveness, but that doesn’t carry over into the legal system and they will still have to face the courts and punishment.

1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.

2 Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.

3 For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself.

4 But let every man prove his own work, and then shall he have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another.

5 For every man shall bear his own burden.

6 Let him that is taught in the word communicate unto him that teacheth in all good things.

7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.

8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.

Galatians 6:1-8

 

I know Christ has forgiven all my sins and redeemed me to the Father for them. I know that there are no legal, medical, business or other issues like that of which to be concerned, although there may be some personal issues that could always possibly create issues but those hopefully won’t. I know since I have been saved, there are no areas of my behavior or actions for which I should be persecuted by man or God. Well, I should say, if there have been sins against God, they were unintentional and not known to me. I have seen Christians sin intentionally, thinking that it is okay if they do wrong to someone and after they have gotten whatever benefit for those sins, they plan to ask God for forgiveness. The man I worked for after high school would do that, intentionally overcharging people for materials by buying far more supplies than needed for the actual project, charging them for all and taking twice as much as he used when the project was done, doing less work than promised because he said they won’t see it anyway and it wasn’t really necessary, and promising to have something completed by a certain date, but not make any effort to work on that particular project because others would have a better profit, among many things. Then, he would later make comments about how he shouldn’t have done that and say he was going to pray for forgiveness. Yet, within a few days at most, he would be doing the same kind of things again and, yet again, after it was done and he had the money for the project and the extra materials he would seek forgiveness. God finds that insulting and, I suppose one could possibly consider it blasphemy.

 

My Heavenly Father, I praise Your Holy name and thank You for forgiving my sins. I am trying hard not to sin again, I ask for Your help that I not do so. I ask that any in the past that I sinned against forgive me as I have forgiven those who sinned against me. I pray for those who sin others intentionally and then pray for forgiveness and hope for no repercussions from their sins that they not do that in the future and that they earnestly seek forgiveness from you and then not sin against You again. I ask that You work in my heart and help me have the heart of Christ, that You work on me to make me the servant that You wish me to be and that You draw loved ones to You and show them Your truth, the only truth, that salvation is there through Jesus. Thank You for all the blessings and mercy You give me.

In Jesus Name, Amen.

 

Since this started out talking about crops, the next time you eat, that is due to the hard work of farmers. I don’t do that work on my land and glad I don’t, the dirt, dust, heat are all more than I care to contend with from a job. Have a blessed day, and be a blessing to at least one other.

 

 

Happy Birthday!

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Well, tomorrow is not just my birthday, but a fellow blogger and I want to be sure to wish Unconquered Faith a Happy Birthday!  I would encourage all to take a moment and check that blog. The author does some outstanding work!

But, as I think about my birthday and what it means to me. Well, obviously, the day I was born, but I have to admit, I don’t remember it so must trust that I was born since, here I am. Other than that, lots of special birthday memories, too numerous to remember, let alone list at my age. Some very wonderful moments, started a great friendship on one birthday that ended far too soon. My birthday was also the last day I spent with my father as he was barely hanging on for a large part of the day, I sat with him and told him it was okay, he didn’t have to suffer and it was alright if he went to Jesus. But, the stubborn guy waited and minutes after midnight he passed. I still miss him after 4 years.

1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;
3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace. Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

 

Other than that, well, praise the Lord I am here to count off another year. There were many times I never thought I would make it anywhere near this age and some days, I think back and truly amazed that I did make it. Given how, well to be honest, STUPID I was when I was younger, or, perhaps wreckless but more likely some of both  (mostly stupid,) I have no doubt God was watching out for this fool.

The angel of the LORD encampeth round about them that fear him, and delivereth them. Psalms 34:7

 

I praise God and thank Him for protecting me, at times due my actions and other times, the action of others. He has been there for me, watching over me, protecting me even at time I did not realize He was protecting me from physical or emotional harm. I have questioned Him at time, thinking He was punishing me, but later realized what He was doing wasn’t for punishment, but for my well being. I praise Him for being so much wiser than I!

 

Lord, I praise You and thank You for all the blessings, protection, comfort and guidance You have given me. All the mercies You show from Your love and grace. I ask in Jesus Name that You continue the work in me and help me become the Christian that You wish me to become. I pray for my fellow blogger, work mightily in that person’s life as well. I ask that You work in the lives of loved ones and draw them to You. Many of those I love are not following Your will in their lives and I pray You show them what You want for them and help You.

Amen.

Thank you all for stopping by and, if anyone is looking for a gift for me, I just ask that you pay it forward to someone else today, be a blessing to someone in some way. A kind word, a smile, a comforting hug, time to talk or listen, call, email or text someone you know wants to hear from you or from anyone that needs to know there are people out there that care, whatever you feel God leads you to do for another. He will bless you for your efforts as well.

Self Esteem

 

 

 

I used to have very low self esteem. Many reasons one develops that feeling about one’s self and that is how it was for me. My mom was always good to me, but she also always made time to help others, family, say one of her sisters was having issues with her kids, she would be quick to run over and help her with whatever, often having cousins staying with us for extended time periods which caused me to have to cancel plans so we could go to the aunt’s house and deal with whatever issues occurred there. Sometimes a friend needed something and once again, plans canceled to go help someone else. Later, they started foster parenting so all kinds of disruptions there, and the amount of time the foster children took was phenomenal. Those things resulted in my feeling that I must not have been too important, otherwise she wouldn’t make me cancel plans for the other people and that my brother and I were a not enough and that, since the other kids took so much time and she had less for me, that added to those feelings. I was a kid and kids think only of themselves. I know it did not make her love me less, but still, a person only has so much time and when she took time from me to deal with the foster children and other people there was less time for me.

When I was older, dating, sort of engaged choices were made by others that added to the low self esteem, making me feel like I was fortunate if anyone took time for me at all. Finding that they preferred to spend time with others, whether it be friends, family or whoever than with me. I tried compensating with working hard, distracting myself hunting or fishing, getting an education and good career. But, for a long time that did not help my self esteem. Over time, it got better, but regardless of all that, deep inside, I did not feel good about myself. Then, when my father was dying and my wife decided it was more important to take a vacation trip rather than cancel it so she could stay there with my father, me and my family at a difficult time it truly destroyed any sense of self worth that I had at all. How could I have value if my own wife would go on vacation while I was suffering and my father was dying. I pretended things were sort of okay and made it through but was not able to find value in myself. I worked helping my mom around her house, worked a lot on projects at home, found other distractions but, no matter what, my self esteem was not better and I really could not see a future. When I got to the point that I had good self esteem and felt that there was a bright future on the horizon, once again, I received a blow that shattered that and one again, my sense of self worth was gone.

As I said, after a series of events, I was at my lowest point ever and that is when I came back to Christ. HE made me better, He forgave my sins, He showed me that others actions do not make me worth more or less. HE showed me my value. It isn’t based on actions of others. Others’ actions are their decisions, sometimes made out of concern for others, but more often than not out of selfishness, to try to fill voids they have due to self esteem issues. He showed me that thinking that when others treated me badly was actually because of problems they had with themselves and are usually self motivated. Failure of others to treat me as I treat them is not my failure and doesn’t make me of less importance. Humans are by nature selfish and no matter how much they swear their love and dedication, eventually they will make decisions based purely on what they think best serves them and will either make demands of you to do things, or turn their backs on you if you cannot do what they want, when they want. Despite saying they value you, you end up seeing that they value themselves more and when it is someone you thought really loved you it can further damage one’s self esteem. Until you remember, human nature and that some people will not, or cannot, get past their own human element.

Now, my value is from Christ. He is my savior, my salvation, my redeemer. He makes me valuable beyond anything I could have ever imagined. He is always there, never leaves me or forsakes me. He cares about me, my needs, desires, hurts and what is important for me. He doesn’t base my value on what I can buy for Him, what I can do for Him. Oh, God expects our praise, worship and service but it doesn’t mean He doesn’t value us. He valued me enough to sacrifice His son, that is a lot more than others have done for me.

 

“For our gospel came not unto you in word only, but also in power, and in the Holy Ghost, and in much assurance; as ye know what manner of men we were among you for your sake.”
1 Thessalonians 1:5 (KJV)

 

He was here for MY SAKE! To help me know that my value to Him is so great he lowered himself and became human so He could die for my sins.

Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not. 1 John 3:1

 

And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. Luke 16:15

 

The last verse says the most to me, that no matter what PEOPLE do to me, to try to undermine my self esteem, whether it be intentional or not, GOD will see me for who I am, He will see my heart, He know me and my value of whether or not the other people do. He also tells me that when one is esteemed by people, they are an abomination to God. Those who only worry about what others think, and do anything to try to make them think highly of them, usually in an attempt to boost their own self esteem, will destroy the value God puts on them. Plus, it will only serve to further lower their own self esteem when they realize that the esteem in which others hold them is fleeting.

 

Lord, I worship You and thank You for being my Redeemer, that You brought me out of that circumstance to show me that I had tremendous value and that You always knew that and You were always there for me. All I needed to do was call out to You. Thank You for all the blessings, for the knowledge You are giving me, for helping my faith strengthen and my relationship with Christ grow tremendously. I ask in Jesus Name that You continue Your work in me to make me know how to better seek You, further strengthen my faith, show me Your will in my life. I ask that You also work in the lives of others to draw them to You and teach them Your will in their lives as well.

Amen

 

Thanks for the visit, I hope others who may have self esteem issues realize that material possessions, money, status, other people do not dictate our worth, one’s only true worth comes from Christ and our relationship with Him.

 

 

 

The work continues

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Well, In the morning, I have a dentist appointment, and if anyone read or remembers the post about dentists, you will recall I am terrified of going to the dentist. It is just a cleaning and check up, but that still causes a lot of stress for me. After I get done there, I am heading back to the home town to try to finish up things to prepare for the estate sale to settle my parents’ estate, likely spending most of the week, if not all of it, up there. Although I have mostly finished digging through all the boxes there is still a few things to sort out, it has been trying to say the least. SO very many memories in that house, some are good, some are great, some happy, some sad.  Many of the items have memories attached as well. The different knick knacks my mom loved to have around, the musical instruments that she played, her records, CDs, cassette tapes and the seasonal decorations. She liked to decorate for holidays but none more than Christmas, some older decorations that we had when I was very young, some she bought later, little dancing Santas, strings and strings of lights, some in shapes of holly, some like reindeer, santa, or spelling out Peace, Joy, Christmas and other words. She always loved decorating for Christmas more than any other holiday. I see the various decorations and remember them hanging on the walls, doors, tree or set up outside and hear the Christmas music playing in my mind and for a while, I am right back at that time in life, things are sweet. But, then reality hits that and the bitter comes. I choose to focus on the sweet though.

I have mentioned before how bitter sweet it always is when I work up there. Thinking about the happy times, missing them and wondering about my future. Getting this close to having the sale is somewhat relieving, but somewhat disconcerting as the things will be gone and I will be that much closer to having the house ready to sell as well. That will be the last of the things from their estate that I will sell. I have some of their things I kept for memories, etc. But, the big ties to those physical reminders will be gone. The memories I will always have, but for some reason, it feels like selling the things will let them slip away easier. Even though I know that the material things are not the memories and I will always have the memories.

I thank God daily for the parents He gave me and glad for the time I had with them. I thank Him for helping me deal with all the estate issues and look forward, somewhat anxiously, to completing the tasks. I also know that they are rejoicing with Christ this very moment and I look forward to joining them in the future.

Through the emotionally difficult times, even when I wasn’t serving Him, Christ was there with me, comforting me, helping me get through the loss and all that has followed, but it surely has become much easier walking with Him. Praise Him for His faithfulness and joy He gives.

 

15 If ye love me, keep my commandments.
16 And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever;
17 Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you.
18 I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.

John 14:15-18

 

But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you. John 14:26

 

Lord,

I praise You and worship You. Thank You for my parents and the comfort You have given me since they left to be with Christ. I ask for Your continued help during the preparation for the estate sale and ask that You help make that go smoothly when it is underway and after that is completed I  pray in Jesus name that You guide me and show me Your way ahead for me. Make me sensitive to Your will for me. Please work in my heart and the hearts and minds of loved ones to draw us all to You so we may follow You.

Amen

 

I hope all have a great day and remember to Praise Him and thank God for all your blessings, and bless others as you can.

 

You can’t hide from you

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I am up and the home town again for several days, finishing up the last I need to do to prepare for my parents’ estate sale and not surprisingly, I sometimes run into people I know and I am almost always amazed at peoples’ behavior. I know a lot about behavior since I deal with people a lot and it is part of my training. It is almost universal that if someone is guilty of something, ashamed of their actions, owes someone money for instance and has not paid them back, borrowed a tool and either broke it or never returned it, or in some other manner did you wrong they try to avoid you. There are people that either borrowed money from my dad, or got groceries on credit when he had his store and never paid him and they do that to me, they are still ashamed, and my dad has been gone for 4 years.

The other day I had to run some errands, I parked and as I walked towards the door at the store, I glanced over and saw someone that, well, to be kind to them and their behavior, was far less than kind in their treatment of me and that is putting it mildly. But, as I was walking I was just of sort of looking around and saw them. They saw me and almost immediately, looked down at the ground, turned away slightly before lifting their head back up, trying to look toward me but they were unable to make eye contact. I have had this before, but it always amazes me to see it happen. So many people, if ashamed of something they have done, will do almost anything to avoid eye contact. The behavioral aspect of that is that if the people make eye contact, there is a greater chance that the other will possibly try to initiate a conversation and the one that owes them money, or whatever they feel guilty about, want to avoid that because they have to face their own misbehavior, almost like if they and the one that was done wrong don’t talk, they aren’t really guilty. They essentially try to hide from you and when they can’t hide, they look away. I have had people that owed me money that I have almost bumped into at the grocery store going one direction in an aisle, coming towards me, and then they abruptly turn around and go the opposite direction, afraid to face their guilt. The avoidance doesn’t make the wrong go away, it doesn’t make either of them think that whatever is wrong did not happen, both are aware perhaps instead of owing one money,  they were talking about them, or perhaps stole something, broke something, whatever it may be, but both know and avoiding does not change things. Sometimes, the one done wrong is hurt by the actions and prefers to avoid the interaction as well, but for me, I have forgiven them. I don’t approve of their actions and to be honest, they know that they were wrong, but I cannot control others I can only control me and my response to the maltreatment. But, they know the wrong they did, to me or to others, and are ashamed to face that fact. Humans tend to feel that if they avoid the interaction then they don’t have to acknowledge what they did, and if they don’t acknowledge it, they don’t have to apologize or otherwise own up for their actions, avoiding facing the sin, the maltreatment, and by that action, will not apologize or ask forgiveness.

I have been on both sides of this type of interaction, when I was younger, maybe I had been drinking or doing something else I shouldn’t have done, I would try to avoid eye contact or other interaction with my parents. Sometimes they knew, sometimes they did not. Maybe I stayed out past curfew, got bad grades or something, but trying to avoid it did not change whatever wrong I had done, it actually added to it because one cannot move forward when they are carrying baggage for misdeeds or worse, continuing in their wrong actions. When I had a bad grade and got a progress report, one of my parents had to sign the report, eventually, if that was not turned in signed, the school would mail one to the house so it didn’t make the issue nonexistent, it was just a weak attempt on my part to avoid my responsibility and due to that, unable to try to make things right. In the past when I have been the one that was wronged, I would sometimes try to avoid interactions due to either anger or desire to spare the other person embarrassment. Yet, my avoidance did not change things either. As I wouldn’t go to church when I knew I was sinning, thinking by not going to church I did not have to admit to God I was sinning, but HE KNEW.

But if ye will not do so, behold, ye have sinned against the LORD: and be sure your sin will find you out. Numbers 32:23

 

I acknowledged my sin unto thee, and mine iniquity have I not hid. I said, I will confess my transgressions unto the LORD; and thou forgavest the iniquity of my sin. Selah. Psalms 32:5

 

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9

 

He knows our sins. We can’t hide or pretend they don’t exist regardless of how we try and failing to confess our sins simply serves to increase our shame and guilt.

 

Oh my precious God, I praise You for Your sacrifice of Your son to provide me my salvation and the forgiveness of my sins. I have confessed my sins to You and no longer am sinning. I know at times I will stumble, and I pray that You help me avoid the stumbling but also know that if I truly when I come to You and confess any sins in the future that You will forgive me again. I thank You that I no longer need to try to hide my sins because You have cleansed me of them and washed me in the precious Blood of Christ. Help others to know that forgiveness from You for their sins and turning away from sin will give them salvation as well. I ask You to use me to help reach others that they may follow You and let You have Your will in their lives. I ask that You use me to help bring my children to You that they may have salvation and deliverance from sin. I ask that You continue to help my faith grow and to help me have the heart and mind of Christ.

In Jesus Name, Amen.

 

Thank you all for stopping by, please, if you see someone you did wrong, don’t run and hide, face them, confess and try to make amends, apologize and ask forgiveness. If someone has done you wrong, then forgive them, whether they apologize or not. Both things will bless you. And, after you are blessed, be a blessing to someone else.

Happy Father’s Day Daddy!

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When we were young, my brother (1 year older than I) and I called my father, Daddy. Around the time I was 11 or 12, he said that it sounded kinda like something babies would say, and that we should stop and call him Dad instead. It seemed odd at first to me, and I could tell by the expression on my father’s face he noticed, but never said anything about it. I don’t know if it hurt him or if it was just awareness and he thought what my brother had said, is that we were old enough to stop saying Daddy. About 15 or so years later I was working at the family grocery store and an older man from the neighborhood came in with his son. The father was about 75 and his son close to 50. As they went about their business, talking about what they needed and such, every time the son spoke to his father, it was something like, “Hey, Daddy, how much hamburger do we need?” Or, “Daddy, do you want Vanilla Ice cream or chocolate?” It was not forced, the son did not seem to be bothered because he was “too grown up” to call his father Daddy. I felt guilty for my actions when I was younger, but by this time, it was a habit and until days before my father died, I called  him Dad. I wanted to talk to him about a lot of things, how much I appreciated all he had done for me, how much I learned from him, how much I loved him, but as we sat and I tried to talk, the words wouldn’t come, or I would get too emotional so we didn’t talk. But, it was all things I wanted to make sure I said to him, things I had wanted to tell him for years, apologies for stupidity when younger, appreciate for all the things he did for me and just to make sure he knew exactly how much I loved him so I decided to write a letter. It was extremely difficult to write, because of the emotions, but I did get it written and was going to give it to him, but I was out of town with the military and I learned he was back in the ICU and not doing well. I was making arrangements to get up there, but it was a few hours away and I had to make sure he got the letter so I contacted my brother and emailed it to him so they could print it and read it to him. My dad was on BiPap, the mask machine they use as a step between oxygen mask and putting the patient on a ventilator as he was having some trouble breathing and needed the support. My sister in law read it and as she did, my brother told me my father started to become more alert and then he wanted the BiPap off. He took it off, sat up and listened intently. I managed to get there a few hours later and he did not look like I expected from what I had been told. I visited a while and the next day I had to go back to the base for a couple days, then was able to spend the rest of the time with him. I lost him about a week later. But, I got to share my thoughts of him with him and while he did not say anything, I knew it meant a lot to him.

As I face my fourth Father’s Day without my Daddy, I still have him with me, I talk to him sometimes, mostly just to think outloud, but sure wish I could really talk to him again. Despite that, I still have my Heavenly Father with whom I can speak, He listens to everything I say and answers my prayers. Sometimes the answer is yes, other times no and yet other times it is “be patient my child, all things will be as I wish, just be patient, My time is not your time, have faith and be patient.” I do my best, sometimes, being patient isn’t easy and often my faith is tested, but, He has been there with me through those times and helps my faith grow in the hard times and teaches me the patience.

I know that at times my daddy wasn’t the perfect father, but he was so much better than most and for him, I thank God. I pray that I was half the father to my children.

 

1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)
3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Ephesians 6:1-4

 

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

 

I hope all that still who’s fathers are living make sure to take time to call and if able, go see them. They sacrificed a lot for you and it will bless you to see them, and bless them as well. Any who are fathers, I pray you talk to God and ask His help in raising your children. Any others, like me who have lost their fathers, just take a few minutes and thank God for them and spend a few minutes remembering the good times.

 

Dear Lord, I praise and thank You for the father You gave me. He raised me to be honest, loyal and to work hard and I know so many that never learned that. I thank You that he showed me to work hard and to face adversity with dignity and to not succumb to the temptation to be petty and small or to lower myself to others’ levels when they try to argue or fight. He taught me kindness and compassion and to continue to be kind and compassionate, despite others abusing that at times or pretending to appreciate his kindness but then turned on him, later to come and ask for help again. He never let their past misdeeds keep him from following your guidance on how to treat others. I pray that You help me be the man he was and to be the father and grandfather I should be in a way that honors you.

In Jesus Name, Amen.