Have you ever been in a situation where you wanted something very badly. It could be anything: a certain toy as a child, a bike, a car, a new house, a new boyfriend/girlfriend, new job, a new cell phone, anything at all. SO, you look or do something to try to make it happen, save money, sell current house, date new people, look for a new job or in other ways try to make conditions work so you can get what you want. Then, after putting some effort into it, having found, oh, say the right car, finding out actual cost, getting finances situated to permit you to buy it, you start getting impatient, maybe you can’t get a loan for the full amount and need more for the down payment. So, you think you will save more money, but then something about the old car makes you want to replace it before you have enough saved so instead of getting what you had decided was the right car, you end up settling for a different one that you can get right now. Sometimes, finding a replacement that, while not exactly what you wanted that is close, but still not the one you really wanted. Slightly different year, different options, so you end up getting less than you had wanted and as such end up realizing after a while that the right now, was not right.
A friend of mine is going through some relationship issues, infidelity on part of her spouse, and she is trying to determine if he has any desire to change, he says he does, but he had said similar in the past about such things, and other things. He refuses to get a steady, full time job, takes classes and acts like he is trying to get a degree so he can get the kind of job that he says he deserves and he won’t settle for less than he thinks he deserves for a career, so he gets part time jobs that don’t pay much, takes classes for a semester, quits school and then says something about the school was not helpful or the instructors did not like him in their classes because he is older than the other students. Then, ends up quitting the part time jobs because the pay isn’t enough, not enough hours to work, or some other excuse. He is almost 50 and still doesn’t have what one would consider a career and still wants to run around and act like a teenager in a lot of ways. She told me recently that if she had only dated him a little longer she may have realized that he was only a Mr Right Now and not a Mr Right. She got in a hurry, didn’t want to invest the time to know him better and as such ended up with much less than she thought she was getting. He seemed like a decent guy, seemed to have enough money that he would not expect her to pay most of the bills and that he would be an equal partner. But, such was not the case, he wanted more out of the relationship than he would give. He expects her to compromise, but he isn’t willing to do so.
She talks about how it was sort of a whirlwind courtship, that she had dated some other guys before and while things were fine with them, the relationships were going slowly towards getting married and she wanted to get married. She had one boyfriend that things were great with and they talked of marriage, but he wanted to wait a year or two and she thought it should be sooner so she started dating other guys and then met her current husband and now, finds that nothing was as she expected and said that she wishes she had dated him for at least a year, instead of maybe 6 months before making the decision to get married. Now, she is finding that the relationship is very lopsided and it is taking an emotional toll on her and had she done as the other boyfriend had suggested she may have either married the other guy or at least waited a bit to marry her husband and hopefully would have seen more about him that she did not see at first. so, now, facing a dilemma of whether she should try longer with her husband or admit that it won’t work. Because she went for Mr Right Now, not waiting and working for Mr Right. Those are her words about it, not my impression. Well, I really don’t have a good answer for her but instead offered prayers that things change or she at least knows what God would have her do in the relationship. I do not advocate for divorce but also, do not feel one should remain in such a situation as she is dealing with now. If he can and does change to make it as it should be, perhaps it will work out for her, but after a couple years of seeing his behavior remain unchanged that seems very unlikely.
Well, the Bible tells us we should be patient in some things and to be certain. Old sayings such as: Haste makes waste. Come to mind as well. But, life should tell us all that hurrying up too much often leads to regrets. I remember I was starting to learn to run the stove and such and was going to fix a frozen pizza, well. it said 20 minutes at 350 degrees and I figured I could get it done faster by increasing the temperature to 450 degrees and, well, trying to hurry ended up with a burnt disc after about 10 minutes instead of a pizza. So, hurrying and not being willing to wait made me have to change dinner plans and I ended up eating a bologna sandwich. Impatience cost me a pizza and time and made me regret trying to be in a big hurry.
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. Isaiah 40:31
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
24 And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.
3 And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience;
4 And patience, experience; and experience, hope:
5 And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.
2 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;
3 Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:2-3
There are many more verses that deal with patience, waiting, holding fast to the hope for the best that He has for us, but He doesn’t promise that everything will come immediately, oh, some things do, the forgiveness of our sins when we confess that Christ is Lord and the Son of God and we ask Him to forgive us. THAT happens immediately, but other rewards require waiting.
4 And, being assembled together with them, commanded them that they should not depart from Jerusalem, but wait for the promise of the Father, which, saith he, ye have heard of me.
5 For John truly baptized with water; but ye shall be baptized with the Holy Ghost not many days hence.
Lord, I praise Your Holy Name and worship You. I am never less than amazed at all You have to teach me and how You help me improve. I pray in the name of Jesus that You help me understand how to better live for Christ’s glory and help me better know how to wait for You. I pray that You work in the hearts and minds of loved ones and those that are in situations that difficult that came about due to haste. Help them see how waiting for what is right is better than settling for what is available right now. If they are in situations, I pray You help them improve those situations or get out of the circumstance causing hardship for them. I pray You comfort all those who have difficulties, whether it be health, financial or relationship issues and that You give them the joy of Your Holy Spirit during their trying times.
Thanks to all for your time today. Have a most blessed day and remember to be a blessing to another as you go about your way.