As I consider things, how I have been disappointed or let down by others, sometimes they did things I didn’t expect, words, actions, whatever, but other times, the most hurtful times, have been when they made a promise, oath, commitment, however you wish to refer to it, to never do something. Then, turn around and do exactly what they had promised to never do. Saying things to make it seem like I was at fault, or if not blaming me, there were attempts to justify actions. Swearing that they were dedicated and they would rather suffer than to cause me to suffer. Constantly making statements, assuring me that my feelings would always come before theirs yet when they found something that would temporarily benefit them, they forgot all the promises, or if they didn’t forget, they ignored and did exactly what they said they would never do.
I know I have done things to hurt or disappoint others, I have broken promises, we all have. But, when I did so and realized I had, I felt bad about it and tried to make things right. Others, well, it seems that they seem to think that even though they broke promises, that I was wrong to feel hurt by those actions and instead of apologizing or acting even a little sorry, tried to act like since it suited them to break promises, that I should just deal with it and not expect an apology, instead, that I should apologize for begrudging them whatever it was that made it worth it to them to go back on their word. Sometimes, pretending it wasn’t intentional, saying things like, “I didn’t plan on x…..it just happened and I can’t undo it so what’s the big deal. It’s not like I started out trying to do something to hurt you.” Never really apologizing or even trying to understand the hurt the actions caused, or, if they did understand, they didn’t care.
I have no doubt that there is no one alive that has not had a promise made to them, then broken, sometimes big promises, sometimes little ones. But, we have all had it happen, of that I am certain. Expectations crushed, feelings of self worth dashed, since we develop our sense of self worth based on how others treat us. Sadly, humans are selfish creatures, despite some good acts, people do what will benefit them and usually the benefit is very short lived and very often there is a long term cost of the actions that very soon far outweigh any short term gain. What puzzles me is when people seem to do as they do with no apparent remorse or regret. People confuse me. PERIOD. Despite thinking you can trust someone totally and completely, you find that you cannot always trust people. Trying to understand what may have motivated can be confusing. One sometimes wonders what they personally did wrong to have someone break a promise that was made and after enough reflection, many times the person finds no fault in themselves and finally realizes that the person that broke the promise has issues and personal baggage that somehow makes it possible for them to believe that they are exempt from wrong when they break promises. I don’t understand people like that, I have tried to understand and nothing in that seems logical to me.
The heart [is] deceitful above all [things], and desperately wicked: who can know it? Jeremiah 17:9
Considering promises, how when many people make promises, they often break them, having trust in others can be difficult. But, there is someone in whom I can trust completely; who I can have total faith in to do what He promises. And that He will never break a promise or disappointment me.
Whereby are given unto us exceeding great and precious promises: that by these ye might be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust. 2 Peter 1:4
For all the promises of God in him [are] yea, and in him Amen, unto the glory of God by us. 2 Corinthians 1:20
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9
31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
32 (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.
33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Yes, If we have confess our sins, ask forgiveness, seek God and have faith, HE WILL KEEP HIS PROMISES! What a magnificent Lord we serve.
I praise Your holy name and thank You for being faithful and true and for keeping the promises you make and for never failing or disappointing me. I pray in Jesus name that I and all others who have had promises broken be forgiving of those who broke the promises and that we all have the heart of Christ so we not only forgive but also pray for them. Help teach us the mercy, grace and compassion that Jesus has for us. I ask that if I broke promises and someone has hurt over it, that you put it in their heart to forgive me.
I appreciate your time and hope all have a great day and have a chance to be a lessing to others.