Sometimes I make my tongue hurt.


Did you ever have a time where you wanted to say something, and did so without giving thought to whether you should say it or not? Or, times you felt like saying something but bit your tongue as you wanted to wait and give it a little thought before saying it? Maybe give someone your honest opinion about something or tell them something true that they you think they should hear but may be hurtful or upsetting to them so you hold off and consider if you should say it and if you should you wish to consider options on how to tell them. Perhaps it is because of something they did to you or said about you or someone else. Maybe they did something wrong and you want to make sure they know. Possibly something they are doing wrong and sinning and you are wanting to help them by letting them know what they are doing is a sin. Or someone fixed you dinner but what they fixed is not seasoned properly and you want to help them by letting them know it has too much garlic or salt or was a little overcooked? The list of things one can find to criticize another is pretty lengthy. I know it sure wouldn’t take a lot of effort for someone to find ways to criticize me.

Sometimes, criticism is needful and beneficial but many times it is simply a way for someone to try to attack another. I have had people claim they were giving “constructive criticism” that was nothing more than a way for them to try to demean me and either make themselves feel better by making negative comments about me or simply to make me feel bad about myself or whatever it was that I had done. I have to admit that I have at times done that to others and said things that didn’t really need to be said out of anger or because I was upset. Regardless of the reason for my feelings, I thought I was justified to say something and at times I did. No thought about the real reason for saying it or what benefit it may have for others if I were to say what I was feeling. Maybe someone said hurtful things to me so I wanted to hurt them back during a conversation or argument so out the words come and words can be quite powerful but the words often impact the recipient and the speaker in undesirable ways.


Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. Ephesians 4:29


Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.  Psalms 19:14


He that hath knowledge spareth his words: [and] a man of understanding is of an excellent spirit. Proverbs 17:27


A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. Proverbs 15:1


If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion [is] vain. James 1:26


Let your speech [be] alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man. Colossians 4:6


Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. Ephesians 4:29


Yeah, I know I started and ended the scriptures here with the same verse. Because, well the lesson for me is important. FIRST, I need to remember to NOT let corrupt communication proceed from my mouth. I need to consider if I am speaking the truth for the need of the one hearing it or if I am saying it to please myself because I am angry or have any motivation other than helping someone and glorifying Christ. I have in the past had no hesitation to speak my mind, often times not considering if it is right that I say whatever. Oh, it may not have been false or wrong, but it also may not have been beneficial for anyone that I give words to my thoughts. Christ has helped me with that. I am much better about pausing before I speak, biting my tongue until I have thought about things a little and often I find I really think it is better NOT to say something. Oh, I may REALLY WANT to say it, but that is the selfish human part of me and not Christ so I bite my tongue. He helps me hold my tongue and I do need help with that.  I have also come to better realize that those to whom I want to speak harshly or criticize about their actions don’t need to hear me. Those who have sinned, against me, others, themselves and most importantly against God, well, they already KNOW that they did so and me saying something to them is basically rubbing the sin in their faces and being judgmental. Neither of which benefits me or others so as such, the words are corrupt.

I also repeated the verse because not only do I need to make sure the words are not corrupt, but that they will benefit the one to whom I am speaking and me as well. That it will build them up, bring them closer to Christ and glorify the Lord. God has helped me be more careful to hold my words, pick the right words and I am thankful that He has done so.


Lord, Praise Your Holy Name. I thank You so much for helping me learn when I should speak and when I should hold my words, for helping me learn better how to consider the reason and impact of what words I would use. I ask that You continue to help me with this as I still have a long way to go to be where I should be with this and many other issues. In Jesus name I pray that You use my words, spoken and written, only to glorify You and to help others, to draw them to You. To show them Your glory, peace, comfort and the salvation You offer us all. That my words serve You and help others. And, to not say those things out of human desires of vengeance, anger or vanity. Give me the right words at the right time. I ask that You better help me seek You and that You use me for Your glory. Please draw loved ones to You and help us all see Your plan for us.


Thanks for your time today. I hope something blessed or helped another today and please, try to be a blessing to someone else as you go about your days.



One thought on “Sometimes I make my tongue hurt.

  1. Love your post on the tounge. I’ve struggled all my life with pride and anger, we all do and the truth is none of us can change ourself. Our human response seems naturally to always defend ourself when wronged. And we can be most angry and vengeful towards those whom we love most, because it hurts deeply from those you love. Even thow Christ has taught me that my anger is never justified regardless of the circumstances, that tendacy is always lurking within me. I have to be diligent to pray always and stay in the word. To always choose mercy and forgiveness even if the other person was wrong or hurtful, even when they are my enemy. I find that anger and pride are no longer the pattern but the exception. I still fail at times in my weakness to be as Christ on the cross, or like Stephan as he was stoned to death by his attackers. I still sometimes lash out in anger. I also experience a different reaction to my anger from within, even when many might say to me, hey they were wrong, they deserved it. Since coming to Christ my sin brings deep conviction, greives me deeply, and humbles me in the aftermath. Disarming my tendacy to defend my actions even if or when I’m clearly in the right. The deepest desire of my heart is to become like my Lord. To be to the Father as he was, the lowley humble servant, to be as he was even under great persecutions. To be the man who washed His diciples feet. I am a new creature in Christ and Christ in me, but I still sin. Sanctification is a process where in we give ourselves to God in prayer and in the word. No other place in scripture has shown me with such clarity the sinfulness of my own heart and the inability to change myself like Matthew chapters 5,6,7. We are being saved, we are being sanctified, we are no longer what we used to be, we are not yet what we will become in the kingdom of God, but we are as we humble ourselves to the obedience of God, becoming like Christ by the power of the Spirit and the washing of the word. We must always be most critical first in the examination of our own hearts, and then we can be critical of our brothers and sisters in Christ. Because only then do we experience the forgiveness and mercy of God at it’s deepest levels, allowing us to humble ourselves so as to speak truth in love for the purpose of bringing about the greatest good in them and the utmost glory for God. We must judge and be critical, distinguishing good from evil, truth from error. First with self and then with others. Sometimes what we must say as you said might not be received well, like if I love my professing brother and he exalts his gay lifestyle, the most loving thing to do is to bring him to scripture and say, God recieves us just as we are, but he never leaves us in the same condition, he never justifies our sin. If we loved our sinning brother we would sacrifice ourself to tell him Jesus died to free you from sin not to give you freedom to go on practicing sin. Coming to Christ changes the mind affecting the heart, transforming the life, this is the evidence of God given saving faith. So then begins a hard narrow journey following Christ. We must work out what God has put in. Our life no longer our own belonging to Christ we must die to self love, self exaltation, we must take up our cross and follow Christ. We must endure and persevere all types of offense and persecutions as our Lord and savior did, as His faithful Apostles did. It’s a hard narrow way that leads to the gates of heaven. Its not a easy road, it’s not easy believeism, it’s not a decision we make, we don’t find God because he is not lost, we are lost and dead in our sin. We are lost he finds us, and when He makes us alive in Christ, we respond to the light, the new life, the new mind, and the new heart, the transformation begins, all a work of God. The Father’s choosing, the Son’s redeeming, the Holy Spirit applying the will of the Father in power.
    One specific place in scripture that had a huge impact on me in my studies of the sermon on the mount examing my faith was Matthew chapter 7 verses 21-28.
    Here we see faith, belief, and claims of prophecy and works and yet Christ says depart from me I never knew you. WOW! That rocked my world.
    So thankful for God’s mercy and forgiveness and the gift of saving faith.

    We are becoming like Christ, amazing Grace that saved a wretched man like me.

    Today I understand it’s all Christ, it’s all for His glory. I bring nothing and add nothing to Christ. My best good is still a corrupt good. I must pray without ceasing (Always concious of God) be given to scripture daily feeding my mind with truth that flows into my heart and transforms my life.

    Dead to self, alive to Christ, sometimes sinning and sometimes sinning miserably. But always grieved by it, always humbled by it, always battling the decaying flesh that Christ is diminishing.

    Keep fighting the good fight of Faith, keep pressing on confessing sin and loving your enemies. Keep pointing to Christ, and when you stumble get up and keep on trucking because God is the author and the finisher of our faith.
    Jesus said all that the Father has given me will come to me, and I will loose none of them but raise them up on the last day. The day of the Lord.

    Praise God!


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