Have you ever gotten a letter, call, email, text or someone says something to you that is totally unexpected?  Have you ever wondered why I often start with a question? Okay, I will address the second question first, then get back on topic. I start with a question, because something occurs to me that brings questions to my mind so I figure: Hey, if I start this process with a question, then readers should too. Why should you readers get the answers without having something that needs answered in your minds if I have to answer a question? Not being vindictive or mean but rather, wanting readers to think how what follows may apply to their lives. We only get answers when we ask questions first. Life is not like Jeopardy where you get the answers first. LOL

NOW, back on track. Sometimes, many times in fact, I have received some type of communication that left me somewhat confused. Sometimes, that the person contacted me, sometimes due to the message, other times because what is said or written doesn’t match with either their body language if in person or overall wording says different than the message. Maybe I sometimes read too much into a conversation or communications, but other times, when you know the person, when they say things differently than they normally say things, that leads you to take away a different message than it seems to say.

People sometimes say things poorly, so maybe they mean what they say but don’t say them well, but there are also times that they try to say something they don’t mean, so it comes out lacking something. Sometimes, they try to say something without saying it. Maybe they did something they are sorry for doing, and wish they had not, but don’t know or are too proud to actually say they are sorry. Maybe they are trying to assuage their own guilt by contacting you and saying something to try to justify their actions. Or, perhaps they say things to try to convince you of something but in actuality are trying to convince themselves. Yet, the impression you get is that instead of what is said, is the opposite. They say they are happy, but your impression due to wording is that they are not. That they feel they did the right thing but you detect undertones indicating they know they did not.

Well, I have had many interactions in the past, friends, coworkers, family, patients and others that to leaves me confused due to the inconsistencies in the wording, body language, tone of voice, etc. Sometimes, that is due to some peoples’ poor use of language, grammar or punctuation and they mean what overall message says, but other times its because they are trying to say more than they do. How do you determine what they are really trying to say? How do you respond if you think they mean more or different than what they say? Well, my answer to those questions is….I DON’T KNOW! I usually try to get clarification or if there is nothing else said that clarifies meaning, then, well, I just take the words for was said and not ponder too much about what the person may really mean. Well, except sometimes at work I HAVE to determine the truth behind all the words, actions, etc to ensure I treat the patient correctly, but that is a bit of a different matter. To avoid problems and misunderstandings, I try to keep things simple and straightforward by saying what I mean and meaning what I say.


Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment. John 7:24

So, sometimes, one must judge, or perceive a message based on more than first impression or appearance.

9 The heart [is] deceitful above all [things], and desperately wicked: who can know it?
10 I the LORD search the heart, [I] try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, [and] according to the fruit of his doings.     Jeremiah 17:9-10


So, while the heart may be deceitful, with my current question, I am trying to discern what the true meaning may be behind the words. The true nature of the heart of the message and the person from whom it was received. I seek the Lord and through Him search the heart through understanding of their ways and their fruits.


Let your speech [be] alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man. Colossians 4:6


Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. Proverbs 3:5


But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. Matthew 6:33


Prove all things; hold fast that which is good.                      I Thessalonians 5:21

I will seek Him and He will give me the understanding I need.


My Lord, I praise Your Holy Name. Thank You for providing me Your word so that I may have better understanding. I pray in Jesus Name that You give me the heart and mind of Christ that I may better understand messages, from others and most importantly, from You. Help me understand Your word, Your will and Your way for me. Give me the knowledge I need to be the best Christian I can be so I can better represent Christ. I ask You to draw loved ones to You and show them Your truths, Your way and plans for them. Show them all the path to salvation and how to live the life that You want them to live.




Thank you all for your time. I hope all do their best to be a blessing to someone today and that you all be blessed as well.



1 Comment »

  1. This is something I have noticed often also. People don’t always mean what they say, and it is quite confusing. Sometimes they are simply embarrassed to say what they actually want to say, other times they can’t communicate what they wanted to. Hence, responding with grace is always necessary, as our limited ability to understand may lead us to the wrong conclusion, as you said.


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