I had to go to the market (grocery store for those who don’t use the same term.) I hate shopping, I usually go, find what I need and go. But, sometimes, I take a little time to observe people and their behavior. I do that at work sometimes too, not just take care of the sick person, but watch the family in the room and see how they interact. As I was shopping, I heard something fall and there were two boys, lets call them Sam and Joe, (I thought about Thing 1 and Thing 2 as I read a lot of Dr Seuss when I started reading a couple weeks ago but thought some would think that mean, lol) but one was standing there the other hollering, “mom, did you see that? Sam knocked that stuff off the shelf.” Sam said, “no I didn’t Joe did.” Joe started hollering louder, “NO I DIDN’T, YOU DID!” Sam said no more. Joe kept going on, saying more and more. Sam just picked up the boxes that had fallen and handed them to his mom as he was fussed at for messing with stuff and knocking it off the shelf, he was lucky it didn’t break. Joe got a huge grin on his face. Something seemed off. As I shopped, they were a little ahead of me for a while. You know how that goes? Seems like when I shop, as I go through the aisles if someone is going the same direction, there ends up being a convoy of sorts for a while so you end up ahead of one person and behind another for a while. That happened so I kind of observed these boys, this family, as I shopped. I would hear a commotion and saw other instances where there was a mishap of some sort, Sam always got blamed by Joe, as soon as something happened. Occasionally, Joe would get something, take it to their mom and say, “Didn’t you want this?” Mom would act appreciative and then tell him to put it in the cart. Sam just followed along and if he tried to help, he was told, “NO, that is not what I wanted, put it back.” But THEN, I looked up at just the right time, Joe shoved Sam into one of the aisle displays, this was a stack of macaroni and cheese, Sam fell, the mac and cheese tower came crashing down. One again, the second it happened Joe started hollering, “Mom, did you see that? Sam just knocked that stuff over.” Sam tried to protest, “No I didn’t mom, Joe pushed me.” Mom was livid at this point and told Sam he was not getting anything today. Then added, “why can’t you just be like Joe, he is always so good at the store and you always have to mess with stuff and cause a big commotion.” Sam started to say something, then, you could see the look of defeat so he just said, “Sorry mom.” and tried to pick up some of the boxes. Joe just grinned.
I went to them, said “ma’am, I don’t want to interfere, but that little boy, (pointing at Joe) shoved him into that stack of boxes.” She just kinda looked at me and then the boys. At that point I didn’t need anything more in that aisle and couldn’t get past all the mac and cheese boxes, so I turned around and went on with my shopping. I wondered about those boys, that family, prayed that God work with them. I will admit, there may be more involved than I know, maybe Sam is usually the trouble maker and Joe usually the victim. I saw them and their interactions for but a few moments but it sure looked to be a pattern of behavior that had played out many times before. Sam, innocent of what he was accused, Joe the instigator, loudly accusing Sam of any and all things that happened.
I have seen this with families in clinic as well. Mom busy with tending the sick child while the other children do what kids do. One will sit there playing with whatever toy, another trying to play with the various pieces of equipment, teasing siblings or whatever, but when something gets knocked over or something gets spilled, one will accuse the other often wrongly, but the mom will seem to believe one immediately and disbelieve the other when he denies wrong doing.
My son in law was talking about issues at the factory where he works, there was a problem in the packaging in an area near him. Someone had loaded the bags, well, what became bags, it was rolls of paper packaging that as it went through the process was cut to length, one end sealed, the package filled and then the other end of package was sealed. But, the roll of packaging material was not loaded correctly, they are supposed to load it, run the package part way through to feed it into the machine, cut off a certain amount so the printing on it is centered correctly. Well, someone had failed to cut off the excess so a bunch of the bags had the printing not placed properly. One employee immediately accused the prior shift worker of the problem. Well, that guy was home by then and couldn’t defend himself. The supervisor made a note, said he was going to have the guys supervisor speak to him and they would just leave the current packaging for him to have to refill when he got to work the next day. The one working at the time went ahead and made corrections and finished out his shift. The next day, there was a bit of a commotion. As my son in law tells it, management had done an investigation, the machines record certain bits of information. Keep track of a variety of things, how much has been processed and packaged, how much time the machine is down for service, how much more packaging is there so they don’t run without it in place and who knows what else. But, as they reviewed the information they found that the packaging material had been reloaded, about an hour or so after shift change, so no way the accused employee had been at fault. Then, my son in law added that it seems the one that blamed the other has had a lot of that sort of thing happen, malfunction of something, always someone else’s fault, someone else gets in trouble but had never been caught. Eventually, he was found out. I don’t know what, if any disciplinary action was taken, but the fact that he left multiple victims if you will, in his wake while always portraying himself as innocent was an interesting thing to me.
I got to thinking on that type of interaction. How one person seems to accuse another of any and all type of behavior and actions. They believe the accuser and though one is innocent, they are automatically assumed guilty, because “Joe said you did it.” with the accused, knowing that protesting will not help, accepting that no attempted defense will be successful accepts it and hopes that one day the truth will be seen. With Sam, Joe and their mom, well, I hope I helped and that mom sees the truth about some of the things. Like I said, I may not know the whole situation, maybe I saw Sam on a good day and Joe on a bad day. But, still, patterns tend to be consistent on human behavior.
But if ye will not do so, behold, ye have sinned against the LORD: and be sure your sin will find you out. Numbers 32:23
Be not a witness against thy neighbour without cause; and deceive not with thy lips. Proverbs 24:28
And Jesus answered and said unto them, Take heed that no man deceive you. Matthew 24:4
I don’t know if Joe ever apologized, if he ever confessed to his mom. I don’t know if I only saw an unusual event for that family of if it was a typical thing. I just know what I saw then. I hope Sam is as good as he seemed but also hope Joe isn’t quite that bad. Regardless, I pray for them. If Joe is as he seemed, the child is in for a rough life because all those chickens will one day come home to roost.
But, there is hope, for him, for all, Christ, the Son of God, died that we may have salvation. We have all sinned, but He gives us the opportunity to see the truth, most importantly the truth of His word and for the forgiveness and salvation we need. WHAT A GRACIOUS GOD WE SERVE!
22 Even the righteousness of God which is by faith of Jesus Christ unto all and upon all them that believe: for there is no difference:
23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;
24 Being justified freely by his grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus:
25 Whom God hath set forth to be a propitiation through faith in his blood, to declare his righteousness for the remission of sins that are past, through the forbearance of God;
26 To declare, I say, at this time his righteousness: that he might be just, and the justifier of him which believeth in Jesus.
Lord, I praise Your Holy Name, please help the family I saw. Help the mother do well raising her children. If not saved, draw them to You. Help me be able to be a better servant, to seek You, to serve You and do Your will. Help me with writing this blog that I use the right words and deliver the messages You wish me to deliver. Give me the Heart and Mind of Christ that I serve You better. Draw family and loved ones, as well as all, to You that those not saved will be and those that are be closer to You. Thank You for the many blessings, my salvation and yet another day to serve You.
Thanks for stopping by today. Getting ready for church, I hope all have a blessed day and find a way to be a blessing to at least one other person today.