Sometimes, in medicine, there are patients that you can’t help as much as you would like. The injuries they sustained or the disease they have has progressed to the point that nothing humanly possible, despite all the surgical options, medications, and other treatments that are options just won’t be enough to change the outcome, the results. Maybe they were in some sort of accident, the have severe facial injuries that, regardless of how good the surgeon is, they cannot prevent a certain amount of scarring, sometimes significant scarring. Other times, someone has such bad pneumonia, lung disease, bad heart disease, kidney disease, cancer or other disease that is just so far progressed, that no matter how hard one tries, all the best specialty doctors can’t change the outcome. The patient will not recover, the doctors cannot restore their health, undo the disease and there will be what we sometimes call, a negative outcome. We try to say things in clinical language, not because we do not want to admit that sometimes our best is not good enough and patients die. Our best efforts are inadequate. We try to prepare the patient and family for what is going to happen. Sometimes they listen and do their best to make sure their loved one is made comfortable, they spend time with them, trying to make suffering as minimal as possible and to try to squeeze just a little more time with their family member. Surrounding the patient with those they love most. But other times they get upset, angry, frustrated and look to see who can be blamed. Some blame the doctors, some blame themselves or other family members, some blame the patient for not doing better taking care of themselves, not getting medical care sooner, etc, some blame God.
Sadly, sometimes people do not get better, sometimes you cannot change the outcome. I have at times, seen things that made me know what the outcome was going to be, although the exact time line for the final outcome is uncertain. I have had people; patients, family members of patients and others, get upset because I am in a situation where the information they are given is not what they want to hear. Some listen, understand and do what they should to prepare while others completely ignore the information they are given and proceed like things are just fine, then act shocked with the exact result they were told to expect occurs. Some spend a lot of time praying, waiting for a miracle. Miracles do happen, but often, for reasons only God knows, He does not always change the outcome. People all respond differently to that fact.
Responding to those who are saddened by the news they are given is easy, you let them talk, you listen, you give them a shoulder to cry on if they need it. But how does one respond to those that get angry when given accurate information? Well, sometimes, all you can do is give them time to process the information and sometimes they realize that what they were told is correct, and nothing will change the final result. So that they can mentally and emotionally prepare themselves when the process continues to the inevitable end. Sometimes you have to let them unleash their anger on you for giving them the news they didn’t want to hear and, if when the final outcome occurs, sometimes they will still want to lash out at someone and if you are the person that receives their wrath and anger, even if not at fault, you let them.
Whatever the response by the various individuals, all one can do is try to provide them emotional and spiritual support, prayers, and be willing and able to try to help them deal with the final results. Try to offer comforting words, that shoulder when needed, a passage of scripture that will help comfort them. And, most of all, forgive how they acted before and love them with the love of Christ, despite if they attacked you directly either physically or verbally; or maybe they started talking bad about you to others; whatever they may do otherwise because of their emotional response to the unpleasant true information you needed to give them.
I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he said, It is more blessed to give than to receive. Acts 20:35
Now we exhort you, brethren, warn them that are unruly, comfort the feebleminded, support the weak, be patient toward all men. 1 Thessalonians 5:14
But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you. John 14:26
Lord, I glorify and worship You. I pray that You reach out to those who are facing unpleasant circumstances, possible loss of loved ones or whatever painful event. Give them comfort and reassurance that You have control of the situation and You will never leave or forsaken them. I pray that You help me be the support others need when such times come along. Give me the wisdom to know what You need me to do to help them and glorify You. Please help me be the vessel of Christ that I want to be and that You have planned for me. I pray that You reach out to loved ones, draw them to You, give them the thirst and hunger for Christ and a need to find and serve Him. I ask You show them Your way for their lives. I thank You for my salvation and all the blessings You give me and all the grace You show me.
In Jesus name,
Thanks all for visiting today. I hope something in here is helpful to at least one person, that they see there is comfort, hope and salvation for them. That regardless of what life throws at them, the losses they endure, Christ is faithful and true and will be all they need.
Have a wonderful day and don’t forget, be a blessing to any and all you can.