I remember when I was young, Pop kept bees. I always enjoyed going to help him when he went to collect the honey. He’d always cut a little piece of the honey comb and give it to me. I loved that stuff. Well, at first though, I hated getting very close, always bees buzzing about the hives. I was maybe 4 or 5, and would start to swat at them. Pop would say, as he often did, “You think that’s a good idea?” And, he would chuckle. Well, I had finally learned that him asking if something was a good idea, it probably wasn’t. I watched him, he just did his stuff with the hives, bees buzzing around him but never bothering him. He didn’t try to swat at them or shoo them away, he ignored them and they just buzzed around but didn’t sting him. He didn’t even wear the hood and such like some do. He just used the smoker thing, puffed it into the hive he was working on and pulled the honey combs out and put new frames back in place, close up the hive and we’d go back to the house. Well, I got used to the bees and didn’t pay them much mind after a while.
Have you noticed how some people react to bees, some like Pop, would just do their thing, ignore the bees and not worry about them. Knowing that if you antagonize by swatting at them, it makes you suffer. Even if one wins fighting bees, since the bees die after stinging someone, you still have to deal with the sting. Some people get frantic, if one gets into the car while they are driving, they will go nuts and forget about driving just because the bee is in the car.
Then, there are the killer bees, much more aggressive and will sting with very little provocation. Those, you really need to avoid swatting at since they are just, well, angry, and looking for a reason to try to sting.
That got me to thinking how some people are, they like to buzz around, try to annoy others and if the ones they are annoying try to shoo them off, swat at them and such, they try to sting. I had a coworker, well, not exactly a coworker, but someone that worked in the same area, but lets call her Sue that liked to do that, antagonize others, and if they responded harshly, Sue loved to try to make complaints to their supervisor, who for some reason thought that Sue was all that and a bag of chips. Well, sometimes the person she antagonized got some sort of counseling and Sue would think she had won. But, she just made it so others don’t want to work around her. Others had figured out exactly how she was so they ignored her buzzing around, her trying to instigate things and just went on about their business. Funny thing is, that made Sue even more angry so she tried to escalate and see what happens. Never physical, but boy would she try to talk about someone, make sure whatever gossip she tried to pass on or make up would get back to the person she was gossiping about. She would accuse them of all sorts of things, saying things, doing things, often supposedly saying they said or did things when they weren’t even at work. Well, after all that, people knew and rarely anymore would respond to her behavior because they had figured out how she does. And, the supervisor finally started wondering why it was always Sue that came to make the complaints. Instead of just counseling the other employees, she started talking with them. Then, she checked back on Sue’s prior reviews and employee records and found that there were multiple times that Sue was apparently the instigator, not the victim. The supervisor started watching closer and began to get a bigger picture of the situation. Then, she finally realized that Sue was far from what the supervisor thought. Somewhat the same pattern that had occurred in other departments Sue worked in previously. Yeah, funny how bees tend to be bees, and letting them do their buzzing, but ignoring them doesn’t cause one problems, even if the bees think they are actually making an impact.
1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. 2 The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness. 3 The eyes of the LORD are in every place, beholding the evil and the good. 4 A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit.
Sometimes, as hard as it is, one must do all they can to give a soft answer to those that act hateful towards them or try to antagonize. Don’t swat at them, don’t respond, let them bee (get it, weak play on words, but I try.) Sometimes, soft answers don’t work. What do you do then?
38 Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: 39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also. 40 And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloke also.
Yeah, human nature is to lash back, to strike when struck. It is so easy to fall into that trap. I will remember these words as well as Pop’s taking about swatting and giving the bees reason to sting. Oh, I will let them buzz about but they can’t really harm me with their behavior so I ignore the Sue’s in the world, let them behave as they wish.
I’ve been the bee, the antagonist. But, through Christ that is no longer the case. I’ve been the antagonized as well. Only difference now is how I respond. Now I turn the other cheek, I hold my tongue and know that I am following His words. I don’t try to fight back, physically or verbally. God gives me the strength because it sure aint my way.
Jesus, I worship You. I praise Your Holy Name and thank You for salvation and Your sacrifice and pain suffered You that made it possible I thank You for your lessons. The sometimes painful lessons You give me. I pray You give me the wisdom to both not be the bee and to ignore the bees in my life and I ask You continue Your work in me that I instead am a blessing to others. Give me Your heart and mind and the love that You wish me to have. I ask You to work in the hearts and minds of loved ones, draw them to You, give them the understanding for Your will and way, bring those not saved to You. Use me to help.
Thanks for the visit, and remember, don’t swat at the bees. Try and BEE a blessing to at least one person and you will be blessed in return.