I was flipping channels and one movie on was the fugitive. If anyone doesn’t know about it, started out years ago as a TV series and then made into a movie years later. A man is blamed for the death of his wife and due to circumstantial evidence was convicted. He said he was innocent, talked about a one armed man that was the real killer but no one believed him. He had no evidence other than the statements he made. Yet, the prosecutor twisted anything he had said to use against him as proof of his guilt. Rather than look for the real killer. The fugitive escaped and tried and tried to proof his innocence, but every turn and every attempt made him look more guilty. In the movie, the character eventually gets the evidence he needs to proof he is innocent. I don’t recall if that happened in the series or not. My dad watched it a lot but I don’t really remember the final outcome on that, hardly remember any details about the series. But, bottom line, an innocent man was accused and convicted. No one listened to him and the more he protested, the more others insisted he was guilty.
Now, I have done things for which I should be blamed, and at times, been blamed for things I did not do. As a child, I was blamed for things a sibling did; get cookies without permission, leave a door open, not put the cap back on the toothpaste, leave the milk out on the counter, break a window or something else, used the car and not filled the gas tank before coming home, the list could go on and on. Of course, there were likely times my brother was blamed for things I did. Now, there were times I was guilty, but times I was innocent. Blamed by an irritated parent or a sibling that did not want to take the punishment for their actions or example. Other times, because someone wanted someone to blame so they chose me to blame. No proof other than someone’s suspicion.
Well, sometimes, there really isn’t proof of one’s innocence. Attempting to prove would create far more issues than just stating the facts and letting things go, such as trying to argue, because, like I have heard, the guilty cry foul the loudest and the innocent let the evidence exonerate them. Yet, others, just have to blame someone. If I tried to explain, I got accusations or past events thrown in my face and possibly into an argument where no one wins. So, I just try to stop responding to the accusations and finger pointing. Sometimes, it is not easy, swallowing one’s pride, letting others have whatever opinions they choose and at times, suffering the punishment for something done by someone other than me. As a child, that usually meant a spanking or getting grounded. When spanked, if the real truth came out, then I would hear, “well, you have done other things you didn’t get punished for so this makes it more even.” That logic is flawed, but will not get into that issue. Bottom line, sometimes one is blamed and punished for things they did not do. BUT, what about the accuser? Do they get punished for their actions? Sometimes as a child, when the truth came out, then yes, they often did, but not always. Well, other than the guilt they may or may not have felt for their wrong actions.
How does one respond to false allegations? Especially those that can’t be disproven as there can be no evidence of something not done and other than trying to use alibis or other defensive measures, that just look like one is trying too hard so the result is that it makes one look more likely to be guilty. So, protesting is of no benefit.
But, what is the motivation for the allegations anyway? Is someone trying to not face punishment or scrutiny of their behavior themselves? Such as when a sibling was wrong but didn’t want to be punished, maybe someone feels guilt about one or another things and it helps them to find fault with another by blaming them for something, sort of a I am not so bad if someone else did such and such, or when someone just wants someone to blame because they feel the need for someone to be blamed. Well, that is a question I can’t answer to regarding the motivation. People do what they do. I can’t understand the hearts and minds of others. Truthfully, I often have trouble understanding what my motivation was behind things I have done. I do things, then ask, now, why would I have done that? Trying to figure out what was in my mind at the time. Sometimes I remember, sometimes I can’t understand at all why I did this or that. But, one never really knows what is in the heart of other.
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? I the LORD search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings.
A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh. Luke 6:45
Now, one can’t know if another’s heart is good or evil. Nor can they understand others. I personally struggle, like I said, to understand myself.
Either how canst thou say to thy brother, Brother, let me pull out the mote that is in thine eye, when thou thyself beholdest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of thine own eye, and then shalt thou see clearly to pull out the mote that is in thy brother’s eye. Luke 6:42
Making accusations is another way of judging others, trying to find fault, sometime trying to find guilt where it did not exist. I caused myself to suffer needlessly as I looked and looked for a tiny speck in their eyes when I had much larger objects in mine. I stand on His word and know that He tells me I am responsible for myself and try to make myself right and not cast aspersions on others. Deal with my own issues, rather than try to fix those of others. My issues, my guilt, are mine to try to correct, if others have their own issues and guilt, they need to look to themselves and God. Not blame others if they look into their actions and find fault.
For myself (as I am only able to make changes in myself and not in others,) I will continue to try to lean on God for help in the valleys and rough roads. I will continue to strive not to do wrong, but knowing I am human, I know there will be times I don’t do what God wants me to do. I have had to deal with plenty of both my faults and poor actions as well as those of others, we all have had to do so. I just pray for me and for myself and others that we find forgiveness for one another and let the other deal with any and all of their own issues.
A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh. Ezekial 36:26
I will continue to pray for myself and others that we all be given new hearts and that we let any real or perceived misdeeds be forgiven as He commands. I have already forgiven all those that have wronged me in anyway whether small slights or a serious way, and hopefully, any and all I have wronged will give me the same forgiveness. But if they don’t, that will between them and God.
But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. Matthew 6:15
I will strive, and as I have said many times before, at times I will stumble and fail, to put my faith in God, to trust He will be with me in good times and bad, and to do as Christ would wish me to do. And that I need to stop trying to understand everything, just let Christ understand for me. If He chooses to show me, then He will, if He doesn’t then I will trust that God doesn’t need me to know all.
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. Proverbs 3:5
Lord, I praise your Holy Name. I ask that you help me seek the Saviour more than the saving. I pray you continue to work in my life, give me understanding and guidance as I try to improve and follow your guidance. That you work in my heart that I might only be blessing to others and that I am not the cause of another’s hurt. I ask you help me deal with hurt I have and that you help others deal with their hurting as well. I ask that you work in the hearts and minds of loved ones to draw them to you and your way for them. Thank you Jesus for my salvation, forgiveness, blessings and mercies you gave and continue to give me.
Thanks to all for letting me share questions, concerns, issues in my life. I hope that there is someone out there that has had similar issues and finds some comfort in my words. I will continue to look to Him for help as I learn to improve my walk with Christ.