I wish I could hit delete sometimes. Sometimes, my mouth gets ahead of my brain and I say what I think, but don’t take time to think it through as well as I should. Yup, I need a delete button that works that way. Or, maybe a word vacuum, that could suck the words back and leave nothing that makes anyone know what I said. I don’t say things to be mean or cruel, but at times, just too quick to talk, to slow to think. I need to talk with God about that and see what He can tell me.
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness. The eyes of the LORD are in every place, beholding the evil and the good. A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit. PROVERBS 15:1-4
So, using kind words rather than hasty words is better, and don’t upset people. OK, I knew that, heard the verse more times than I can remember, but what it doesn’t say is don’t be honest, or to candy coat things. BUT, to say things so it is better received.
A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; Ecclesiastes 3:7
And, yeah, I also knew this, didn’t recall the verse, but I have been told such at times. There are times to not say anything, because no matter what is said, it won’t be received well and will possibly cause increased difficulties for all. And, that, at times, yeah, one needs to say things. I just need to get better at figuring out when to use soft answers, silence and when to speak.
Thinking on silence, my mom was pretty good at knowing when to use silence. Rather than fuss at us, spank, or otherwise punish. Sometimes, after finding out about whatever mischief had occurred, she would ask if we did it. Sometimes we said no, even though I am satisfied you knew the truth. Sometimes we confessed. Now, depending on the act, punishment varied. But, what I came to find out, worse than most any of them was the look and silence. The look was a mixture of anger and disappointment. Combine that with the silence and that seemed more condemning and guilt provoking that any corporal punishment ever could be. I have used it on my kids, and grandkids, and….IT WORKS!
Well, simple concepts, not necessarily simple implementation but, I will definitely be praying that Christ work with me to use my words, and at times my silence, more wisely. I know I am going to have to battle this daily, it is far too easy to let words out before thinking things through all the way.
Lord, I praise your Holy Name and thank you for all the blessings and mercies you give me. I ask that you help me hold my words, choosing to use softer, kinder words with others. Help me think more, talk less. Listen better. Jesus, I pray you work on the hearts and minds of loved ones. Help them to say the right thing and, like I ask for me, to hold their harsh words, think more before they speak. Talk to their hearts and show them your way for them. Draw them closer to you.
Thank you for the promise of salvation and the gift of that which you gave me.
thanks for letting me think through things. I hope the words speak to someone else to help them see how to better serve Christ.
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